This website gives you links to all 83 podcasts from the weekly Study Group,
where the book is read and discussed, and questions answered by the author.
In addition, the further Experiments which the author suggests during the Study Group are added for each session.
a story of a book...
Hohm Press in Arizona published Clinton Callahan's manuscript as Radiant Joy Brilliant Love in 2007 (ISBN-13: 978-1890772727). By 2019 this edition was sold out. The publisher wished to re-issue the book with a new ISBN number (ISBN-13: 978-1942493549), a new cover design, and re-titled as: Building Love That Lasts. Clinton wanted to add in the Matrix Codes for each of the book's powerful Experiments so that readers can register their Matrix Points in the StartOver.xyz game. All this has been accomplished keeping the contents of both books essentially the same.
1. BECOME AN INITIATOR EXPERIMENT Figure out what it is you need to learn. Then teach it. Meaning, you write about it, make a video, a website, give talks and workshops for Transformation into Adulthood. Because of what you learn is what you are teaching, your teaching is alive and is coming from your Integrity. What does the world need more than your Integrity?
Doing this allows you to take more conscious Responsibility towards Transformation and the ceation of NextCulture (Archearchy). Archearchy is the culture that emerges after Matriarchy and Patriarchy have run their course. They have run their course. Now it's time for your Initiations through your offering.
2. THINK ABOUT YOUR LAST RELATIONTSHIP How did it begin? Did it begin out of an coincidence? Did it bring you a totally new experience of life? Did it change you? Many meaningful relationships emerge out of coincidences. This is the entity of life. It is how the universe moves you together with other forces. It is the intelligence of the 'Earth Coincidence Contol Office' (E.C.C.O). When E.C.C.O. has already moved you intelligently into relationships, why not radically relying on it on a bigger level? Throw yourself into a transformational path with E.C.C.O. moving you. Do this by becoming an Edgeworker. Your edge is, where your way of doing and being differs from what you are used to. You change yourself by doing it. When you are changing, you Cause Transformation. Causing Transformation is being on a transformational path. It works vice versa. Go to your edge, stay there as long as you can. Can you stay there forever? Start before next week.
3. WRITE ON TOILET PAPER 'I have to be perfect, I should be perfect, I will please my mom and dad if I am perfect, I'll be happier if I am perfect'. Crumple it up and flush it down the toilet.
4. BE THE GREAT MOTHER BEING THE ALL Dedicate a certain amount of time each day (5 to 60 min) to let yourself Shift Identity from a personality-construct (= what you are identified with = your Box?) to being grounded into being the All. This allows you to get accustomed to being the Great Mother and stay grounded while doing this. Take your time with it. Practice being grounded into being the All. It takes practice to inner navigate and hold space for this force of nature (especially if you are male). This is the force of the feminine archetypal nature within you (see Archetypal Love). Move through rooms and brush your teeth like this. Eat an apple like this. Hold your child like this. Doing this gives you a broader connection into the vast feminine archetypal nature that is always accessible within a small now. After some weeks of practice, start speaking from there to your loved ones. Acknowledge the results.
1. ARCHETYPAL LOVE BEING TO BEING EXPERIMENT Gaze into the eyes of people on the screen. Drop out of mind and notice the sensation of being connected. Notice the energetic connection we are having now. We are gathered together in the name of Love. Notice this happening in this space. Notice your physical sensations. Close your eyes and notice what color it is. Clinton calls it 'Yellow Stuff'. Bring this awareness into a WorkTalk or group of people and then speak about what is happening = Love happening. Tap into the Yellow Stuff. How many spaces can you open up with Yellow Stuff and then hold the space where the Love and mystery is alive?
1. BEING IN THE UNKNOWN The territory of the unknown is accessed by holding space for your own Conscious Fear. Conscious Fear is one of your 4Feelings. Feelings are neutral Resources that carry information and energy for you. They are not coming from your mind. Feelings are in your Emotional Body. They carry the intelligence of your heart. The feeling of Conscious Fear intelligently connects you with everything. This includes everything you know and everything you don't know. Especially everything you might never know with your mind. Outside of the known is only vast unknown. Which Resource is bigger? The known or the unknown? Where do you access more Possibilitiy? Here is a door to enter the unknown. Look someone in the eyes once a day, and for no reason say, "I don't know." Give no excuse, stand in your full Power, and be in the unknown when you do this. Stay in the unknown. Where do take the conversation from there?
2. USING UNREASONABLE FORCES Reasons are made up by humans. This is the same with Beliefs. Everyone can make up any Belief about anything. Beliefs do not require to be connected to reality. Nor do reasons! You can believe in any reason without any reason. Are you making up reasons? Then you are making up Fantasy Worlds. Have you ever made up a reason against something you deeply wanted to do? Which are the reasons you can make up right now so to not keep reading? Do you get it? By creating these reasons, it is you who gives your Power away to the reasons! It is also you who takes your power back from them. With your Conscious Will you choose where you put your power. If you don't choose consciously, you choose unconsciously. Then you probably unconsciously put your power into reasons and Beliefs. You do not need to put your power into any reason and any Belief. Take your power back from reasons.
Here is how it goes: Do something without any reason. Do this right in the beginning of a conversation, a WorkTalk, or any situation. Suddenly unreasonable forces gain acces to you. When you move forward being the vehicle for unreasonable forces, you are Going Unreasonable! Be Aware! One does not know before what will happen.
1. ALCHEMICALLY TRANSORM 'WHAT YOU WANT TO HAVE HAPPENED' INTO 'WHAT HAPPENED' By trying to understand Archetypal Love or something Extraordinary (e.g. the 'Yellow Stuff') you try to hold on onto the past. Therefore, what you are trying to hold on is already gone. The mind is too slow. It's like when you are ropewalking. The moment you use your mind, you fall.
Instead transform what you want to have happened using alchemy. Write down the Extraordinary that you want to have happened just the way it is (the alchemy = inc goes on paper). Do this using no opinions. No Beliefs. No reasons. No explanations. Using them would only make you fall out of grace about what you are writing down.
Instead. Practice the ropewalking. It happens in a very Small Now with no thinking and no analysis. Let Your Being name what you want to have happened. Write. Then leave the paper and pen. You cannot undo what you wrote. It has been forever written. Your writing builds Matrix in you to Hold Space for the Extraordinary. Practice over and over again.
2. HAVE MULTIPLE IDENTITIES Develop 1 or 2 characters who you can slide into. They have their own hobbies, intricacies, histories, could be different sex and talk in their own way with their own voice. Do once a day and for no particular reason Shift Identity into one of these characters. This expands rigidity and grip of Your Box identity. Your Box is your childhood Survival Strategy. Many human beings tend to unconsciously stay in their Survival Strategy. Doing this is Creation of the Ordinary by having a Box-Life and being a Zombie. With less rigidity and grip of Your Box you gain acces to more Resources. By using your Conscious Anger to Shift Identity you become a Person Of Agency who Creates Possibility, Invention and you Cause Adventure. All this you do by Choosing your alternative character and playing it out. Are you in? Play it out once a day for 5 or 10 minutes.
3. STAY ON THE EDGE OF LOVE EXPERIMENT Being present means Being With what is. Being With what is creates that you put Your Attention onto the present moment. The present moment can be called a Small Now. Which is only NOW(!) because the future is yet to come and the past is already gone. Simple, right? But to Be With what is in the Small Now is easier said than done. It involves preperation, starting with Becoming Centered. Check out Becoming Centered if you are not familiar. Then continue here. In a Small Now you can find different Gaps. Start with looking for the Gap In Noise. First it takes your Noticing for the noise and then for the Gap inbetween the noise. Try this: When talking to someone, remain silent for 3 seconds longer before you say the next thing. Suddenly you Become Present in this Gap of Noise that you are opening up. This causes that you slow down. Now stay on this edge, and keep talking while staying in Connection with the Gap In Noise. You don't need to be in your head at all. Instead, endure the intensity and the fear from this edge. This edge is a Doorway to the Space where Love happens.
4. GO FIND YOUR MATE FOR EXPERIMENTSIf you are single and on your own, go find someone right now for no reason and break all the rules. You don't need to use the construct of monogamy. Instead, Heal from Monogamy. You don't need to use any construct. Constructs are full of rules. They would be just in your way while experimenting. And you would be locked in by having locked in yourself. So, break all the rules and find someone. It isn't about sex, kissing or any physical contact. It's about interacting. There are outnoumerous ways to be together in Experiental Reality and to Negotiate Intimacy. Choose from these 27Experiments or any other experiment you come up with. Create a chamber of experiments like the alchemist has an oven with a lot of heat in it to work with. Tell the other person you need them for creating that heat in the experiential chamber. The chamber is your experiential space. Both of you can develop a Pirate character who has Power to break rules. Then break your own rules about what you cannot create. Become Creation. This can be your first experiment. Which rules are you both breaking? What do you create instead? Commit to your created chamber until it explodes. Then create the next one with the next person. Go and make yourself dirty. Otherwise you are not experimenting. Start by next week.
1. SEND YOUR GREMLIN ASLEEP EXPERIMENT When Your Gremlin is awake and alert, it will step in more actively when you are about to leave Your Box, your comfort zone, your Survival Strategy by doing an experiment that is Expanding Your Box. Your Gremlin feels the most home in there because it has been protecting Your Box since you created it. Automatically if you start to leave Your Box, Your Gremlin will feel scared and be anxious. Feeding Your Gremlin the foods it likes will make it go to sleep afterwards. Go feed it on purpose. Then do an experiment you feel Fear to do. (You can feel safer while stepping outside Your Box when Your Gremlin is asleep.)
2. PHYSICAL BEEP! SHIFT! GO! EXPERIMENT Als long as you are alive, you embody a Physical Body. For Your Box and Your Gremlin it is more difficult to make you neglect Physical changes than a thought or a decision. This way, your Physical Body is an excellent Resource to create Change. If you consciously move your Physical Body, you change your position. The next thing to do: Link your physical change with changing your Point Of Origin. Your Point Of Origin is from where you speak, declare, ask, choose, move, and hesitate to move. Practice changing your Point Of Origin to get outside of Your Box. Do a Beep! Shift! GO! by standing up, turning around and sitting down. From your new Point Of Origin, GO!
3. USE YOUR RED CLOTH EXPERIMENT You don't need to be a target. You can choose to be the target by taking in everything that is coming towards you. Notice that it is you who takes in. No one else takes in for you. You are taking in. Or you don't. To not take in, use your Red Cloth. It is one of your 13 Tools on your energetic toolbelt. When being attacked for being different, or outside society's Box, hold your imaginary Red Cloth to the side and let the energy go right by you into the Red Cloth. This allows you to stay in Connection to the world in present in time. You do not need to take in any attacks at all. Use your Red Cloth with instinctive skill and the speed of an awaken Torero!
To deepen your research, please visite Red Cloth and make the experiments you find there!
4. ANSWERING NON-LINEAER EXPERIMENT When asked a question, respond by not answering the question and start talking about something else. Become a Conscious Asshole who has the power to Choose what you are saying whenever you want. You never ever have to answer a question of anybody. You choose what you are saying. Consciously use Your Gremlin to go sideways and Nonlinear instead of answering in linear ways. Stay in Connection to the person you are with and the space you are in. Create a new space with your nonlinear answers. Do this especially when you are asked "how are you?"!
5. DE-MANTRA-ISE YOURSELF EXPERIMENT Everytime you are saying words like "um" and "fine", your are about to put yourself into a sleep-mode or a mantra. Being in a mantra makes you being less Centered, less Present, less in your Authority and less connected to your Being. Also you invite people around you to go into 'sleep mode'. Enough of that now! Here is the exercise: Practice getting rid of words such as "fine" and "um" and "hmm" and throw them onto your energetical compost. They will compost there on their own. Invite others to join your experiment. If you hear them say "um", ask them if they have a compost. If not, ask them if they want to create themselves one and Start Over what they were about to say.
1. DO BABY-STEP EXPERIMENTS EACH DAY We become so easily sucked in into the ordinary routines because we have been trained for that since years. A way to break out of that is to do litte nano-step Experiments each day for a whole year (or your whole life!). You Shift Identity into being an Experimenter as a side-effect. Do 3-5 baby-step Experiments each day and be conscious about that you are doing them. This constanty Builds Matrix in you and changes how you are engaging with the world and what is possible for you.
2. MAKE YOURSELF INTERESTING ENOUGH FOR ECCO Because we are so much part of the interconnected web of life, there are forces in universe which are ready to relate to us and support us on our Path. The Earth Coincidence Control Office (ECCO) is an intelligent force, coordinating the seemingly impossible to coordinate. Sometimes it puts you into exact right conversation or place you need to be for your next step. This Experiment is to ask ECCO what is needed from you to become interesting enough for ECCO to move you into a faboulus relationship Possibility. Go ahead and ask. Then do it.
3. BECOME AND LIVE A QUESTION AND THE ANSWER WILL COME Because 'knowing' an answer will kill the Question it might be, that your questions get quickly answered by your unconscious conclusions and illusions, producing the ordinary results that you are used to get. Consciously Choosing to be a Question which is Holding Space unanswered brings forth the power of your Your Quest-Ions which are charged forces beyond your imagination attracting the answers to your Question. So - for how long can you hold your Question unanswered right down at your belly next to your Center?
4. HOLDINGS EXPERIMENT Modern culture feeds the Intellectual and Physical Body most. The 3 other of the 5Bodies (Emotional, Energetic, Archetypal) stay low fed and therefore you experience an unmet need for Love. The practice of Holdings is an essential act of healing your neediness instead of trying to fill it with physical or intellectual food-replacements. Organise yourself with 2 other persons of the same sex three Holdings a week for the next three months and get rid of your neediness. A good start to become a source of Love.
5. FROM 3 TO 1 - FIND OUT YOUR CHARACTER Humans are Choosing their Identities consciously or unconsciously. This Experiment is to watch 3 Movies from the PM Recommended Film List noticing 3 characters that you identify with. Write down in your Beep! Book the qualities which these three characters have in common. Become the ONE character made out of the qualities you have written down and see how it feels.
6. BECOMEING ATTRACTIVE TO A PARTER EXPERIMENT If you are not creating, you are not in the flow of universe. Having your own conversation helps you not to be a victim of the conversation from others, because you already HAVE your own conversation.
This Experiment is to not stop talking about what you are creating. Instead, by lavishly talking about it, you create a gravity well which sucks people into the Gameworld of your Creation. You will attract people who are attracted by the same interests as you are. This is extraordinary circumstance for Negotiating Intimacy.
7. START A POSSIBILITY TEAM BEFORE NEXT WEEK EXPERIMENT Possibility Team is to discover, explore and practice implementing thousands of Thoughmaps, Distinctions and exercise skills that are NOT given in Expant the Box Trainings and Possibility Labs. Your PTeam is your fellow group of researchers working with you on the edge of nextculture - Archiarchy. Find yourself minimum 2 other Edgeworkers and meet in weekly meetings. One spaceholder at a time. 3hours of collaborative practice, feedback and coaching. Use Context Setting as your primary practice so that you are clear about what your purposes are.
1. HOLD SPACE FROM THE LARGE EXPERIMENT Spaceholding is taking responsibility for the energetic level of a space. The first step for taking responsibility of a space is: You need to be aware of the energetic space. This means you need to be aware of being connected to it. Depending which space you are aware of being connected to you will hold a different space. When Holding space with group in a WorkTalk, a WorkShop or a Training, expand it to the bigger space of the world rather than the small space of your talk. By doing that, you implement one of the most important spaceholder-laws: The space determines what is possible. Find out what is possible.
2. PIRATE AGREEMENT FOR SUSTAINABLE CHANGE EXPERIMENT We have found that valuable sustainable changes truly happen by creatively collaborating in a consistent series of baby-step Emotional Healing Processes. You can do this! Make a pirate agreement with 3 or 4 other trainer type people. Ask for an Emotional Healing Process everytime when having an emotional Reactivity and shovel your way free into your Adulthood.
1. YOUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIP IS YOUR EXPERIMENT GROUND Go to the place in you that has the question: Should I stay or shoud I leave a relationship? In this place you are probably weighting out ideas, risks, Possibilties and plans about what happens to the relationship if you do this or that. This puts almost all Your Center and with that your Power into the future and onto your own and the other persons Survival Strategies. You are not Living Full Out!
This Experiment is to relate to the current relationship as an Experiment ground for the next relationship. Where you are right now is where you can do Experiments. Doing them allows us to take bigger risks next time in the next relationship. Why would you think that this relationship is the only one you will ever have if you do not live full out in it?
2. CUT LOOSE FOR MAKING INTIMACY POSSIBLE Relationships don't die in the lack of Love. There always is an abundance of Love. They die in the lack of Intimacy. Intimacy can be created in million ways. Making a meal togehter with eyes blind, having a conversation only with questions and no answers allowed, talking to each other from the unknown, revealing what you are consciously arrogant about, and so on and on and on!
This Experiment is to create a laboratory with your friends in order to do Become Experimenters. Reveal to them your flame to Create the Experiments that can make Intimacy possible. Inside of yourself you already have everything you need. The inventor, Pirate, Experimenter, Edgeworker, Advernturer, sourceress, someone who radically wants to evolve, is already there. This is you! Take a Risk. Cut loose!
Whenever you are with someone, Live Full Out for what you want to create together. Harvest all you can. When the Experiment-chamber you created explodes, learn how to be with it, move on and create the next one! NOTE: Also do real-time reality-checkings with people around you about the Fantasy Worlds you are in about what is possible and what is not. Ask for Feedback. Let your Fantasy Worlds fall together and find out what stays. Create your next intimacy Experiment from there.
3. CHECK YOUR PURPOSE Everything has a purpose, either unconscious or conscious. This proposal is to do Experiments with conscious purpose. Look at your words and question the framework with wich you are Speaking. Are you trying to fit into a framework? Are you trying to fit everything into the Map of your Fantasy World by Navigating relationships spaces towards a certain goal or end that you want to accomplish? By that, you are NOT relating with reality.
The only way we have found so far to be in Reality is by Becoming Present. Only in presence you can Choose consciously. Choosing consciously elimintates the space in you for unconscious choices. Once you are present, consciously Choose to use the Map of Bright Principles as your framework from which you are speaking and creating. Make sure you are functioning in the framework of your Bright Principles and that your Bright Principles are in your heart and body, not just your mind.
NOTE: If you haven't destilled and chosen your Bright Principles reach out to Vera Franco for more Information (http://www.verafranco.org)
4. SHIFT IDENTITY Try Shifting Identity from one to another. Shrink your Now small enough to slip sideways through the Gap between identities. Notice how you can see both identities. The identity that 'I am not good enough' is one identity. The identity that 'I am the best' is another identity. Both are made up, crazy and both carry the risk of making yourself being alone, victimized or hero-ized. Is that what you want? After having your answer: Notice also the Space where you have no identity. Being in the Gap of Identities is groundless, because the nature of Reality is groundlessness.
Who are you if you have no identity? Identities help you to function in a certain way because they give you certain skills, knowledge, characteristics, language, behaviour etc. and still, they are made up and instable.
Yet, Choose an identity that functions in creating what really matters to you, because the identity 'I am not good enough / the best' might just be less practical for bringing your Visions, Quests and Achetypal Lineage down to Earth or create directly from the Gap.
5. MAKE IDENTITY SHIFTS IN OTHERS VISIBLE We Shift Identities multiple times a day, often as an unconscious use of our Survival Strategy. Sometimes it seemingly works best when I am theglad shiny girl or the curious boy or the intelligent student or the sexy lady / dude or the cool, bragging man / women or the helpess child or the 'I don't understand anything' or the 'I am so overwhelmed' or the 'I cannot do this' or the 'I already know everything' or or or. When you are with someone and they shift identities, show them the two identities that you saw them exhibiting. Ask them what is going on for them after you tell them?
This gives them and you a chance to Become Authentic with yourself and each other because Becoming Authentic about your inauthenticity is the first step of taking the masks off. It reveals your true Feelings, vulnerability and your inner messes. You open a Space of Possibility for Connection and Intimacy stepping out of the show(s).
6. CALL THE IDENTITY IN SOMEONE YOU WANT TO TALK TO
If someone approaches you with a certain identity that you clearly do not want to talk to, you have a choice to make. Either you accept their offer with silent acquisence, maybe disgrace, or you tell them who you want to speak to. Tell them: 'I don't want to speak to the self-doubting creature in you, I want to speak to your Warrior.' If they accept, you keep engaging. If not, you make an appointment with them for another lifetime speaking to the self-doubting creature. You have this power.
PS: If you don't see it, check out your identity.
7. PARTICIPATE IN THE EXCHANGE OF FEEDBACK
Seeing yourself without a mirror requires a lot of Clarity and always carries the potential of self-illusion. This is different if you get decent feedback. Feedback is your mirror for seeing yourself clearly. It is an essential tool for Building Matrix to be able to hold more Consciousness. Breathing has two directions of movement, so has the Evolution of Consciousness. In and Out. You can support your Evolution of Consciousness by inhaling and exhaling extra Clarity.
There is places and people who provide Clarity if you go and speak to them (inhaling). This Experiment is to ask other Edgeworkers for Feedback: 'What results am I creating? How can I bring different results? Please give me Clarity and Possibilitiy!'.
There is also people who are asking for your Clarity (exhaling). Giving them your Clarity sharpens your Clarity. Ask for Feedback again! You are participating in the Evolution of Consciousness.
8.EXPERIENTIAL REALITY Get 1 or 2 persons to do an Experiment. First you give them Clarity about what an identitiy is (a manufactured character you unconsciosly or consciously Choose). Then go to a mall or town for 2 to 3 hours. Sit and watch people. Alternating tell stories about their realities. Do this for many people. Look at people for who they are and who they aren't. Meaning, look for where their identity ends and there is free space left, space of nothing. This gives you access to the Possibility what people are not and widens the Gap to see their potentials. We built ourselves all these identities and there is acutally huge space of nothing inbetween that can be filled with all sorts of identities. Fill it for them and have fun doing this!
9. WHY DO YOU WANT TO GET IT?
People put their Center into their mind to be able to understand what is going on. This might be false safety in the Hidden Purpose of Control of relationship. Your mind is TOO SLOW to get relationship. Relating is an alive process, not a math sheet to be understood. Trying to understand it takes you out of the creative collaboration that relating naturally is. Put your energetic Center back onto your physical Center and let your Center think for you. Put your mind into the refrigerator or back into school where they can fix it, since they made you believe thinking is all that counts.
Read the Parts-website and check if you can acknowledge having many many Parts. Each Part has a different agenda. The Parts themselves call their agenda a 'need', an 'urge', an 'addiction' or however you want to call it. Some of your Parts want to take you out of your agenda. They will try to hook you by having back and forth conversations in your mind all day long. The purpose is to eat up your energy.
If you keep Building Your Matrix by naming, healing, holding and distinguishing your Parts, eventually a Hook comes your way from the inside or outside and you notice that it is there before you are hooked. That's when you can decide to stay Centered and hold the Red Cloth up to the side and the Hook goes by or put the Red Cloth in front of you and it hits you impactfully, throwing you off Center.
2. WHEN SOMETHING HAPPENS TO YOU
Sudden shocks or news can take you out of your presence. The way to put yourself back into the Present including the shock or the new thing is a Process called 'As Is-ing Process'. You will need another person who can hear and hold space for you. Go back to the moment right before the new circumstance started. From there let each of your 5 Bodies share was is happening for them in present tense 'as you go through what happened'. Speak from your Emotional, Physical, Intellectual, Energetic and Archetypal Body how they are impacted. This way you integrate the shock of the news and its energy can flow through your body. You are back to yourself in your presence. Not sharing and integrating leaves a Gap and can cause confusion and the inability about how to handle certain situations.
3. CREATE YOURSELF A VOICE FREE INNER WORLD
Your inner voices occupy your space and eat up your energy if you let them. You have put a Zoo (of praise, blame, ideas, shoulds, must, etc.) into your mind by listening to your Parent Ego-State all day long. There is millions of other great Zoo-Keepers around you in the world. They all are pretending that this is real.
But have you ever been in the presence of no voices? In the silent space of the now and nothing? Have you even been in the voice free presence together with another human being? This is the real experience of a Free And Natural Adult Ego-State. Love is happening in a small NOW. No stories, no voices attached. The voices tell stories. Stories happen in time. Time is not in the small now. So you have to Choose between the story or the small Now. To make these stories go away, shoot them with your Voice Blaster. Shoot them visciously, voriciiously, verifiyably. Don't worry about that they might starve of hunger. There is plenty other Zoo-Keepers in the world that will take care of them - BANG!
4.WOMEN: CREATE TRANSFORMATIONAL ADVENTURE JOURNEYS WITH MEN Try to use this Clarity when you are about wanting to offer something to a man that you know he doesn't know how to get there and what to find there. First, be clear about what you are offering: Your offer is a Negotiation to a transformational Adventure journey created from your Magician, Pirate, Sourceress, Inventoress, Adventuress Witch.
Second: If you only have Connection with a man where he is, you are not gonna get anywhere with him. If you only connect with him from where you want to be with him, he will cluelessly stay standing at the next corner unable to follow you. It's time to use you Inner Resources For Connection - Third:
For invitations to a man to work out, you must have one foot where the man is and one foot where Possibility is. Like this you are with him and where you want to go in the same time.
Your are making an archetypal offer for him to come with you on the journey.
5.SOPT GIVING FEEDBACK AS PRAISING AND BLAMING
Praise and Blame are an impersonal expression of your Feelings and Emotions about something or someone. You are making it about them. This is part of the Manipulation game called Low Drama because you are hiding yourself while trying to shape the other person. What's your purpose? Why not making it personal?
Everytime we learn something, we change. If we do not change, we didn't learn anything. If you have something to praise or blame, you are obviously affected by it. But you are not transparent about what changes in you.
'Oh that was great, you explained it so well, gosh you are annyoing, you never understand, again you did it wrong.'
Share what you received from another person and cut out completely your praise and blame. Make it something that is real for you by Radically Relating to the other person. Actually share what you got from the other person, for example your next Question, your next Experiment or Practice or tell them what you want to do next by being inspired listening to them.
As we grow up from being handykapped, wounded creatures we develop an inner emptiness, a hole in ourselves, that is asking to be filled. This is your Child Ego-State speaking. Do you catch yourself trying to fill the hole with food or making your partner responsible for being the one that makes it go away?
We discovered that as we grow up we actually need that inner emptiness in the middle of our Adult Ego-State for being able to Create out of nothing! For the Child-Ego State it sounds totally threatening. For your Adult and Archetypal-Ego States the resource of Nothingness to create is essential. Have a conversation with the emptiness inside you so it doesn't need to be filled. Change your relationship to it and use at as an Inner Resource to create from.
2. LEAVE YOUR OBSOLETE GAMEWORLDS BEHIND
Create your own Gameworld outside of the Patriarchy rather than trying to change you old Gameworlds. They are exactly designed to function the way they are functioning. Changing them would be like trying to make a wheel out of a ladder. It costs you enormous effort and others would probably see this as a great opportunity to complain about what you are doing. You end up in a Low Drama with Gremlins fighting each other. We successfully fight the existing Gameworlds not by changing them but by creating new ones, that make the old ones obsolete. In fact, they are already obsolte. If you have Problems with your old Gameworlds, leave them behind. Create a new one. Gather 2-3 People to support each other in this process. Together read the Gameworld Theory website and help each other to not tangle up in your Low Dramas. Discover your own Potentials, your Inner Resources and the Infinite Resources, your Bright Principles, Your Teams, Your Quest, your Archetypal Lineage and maybe most important: Your next step! These are great forces ready to suppoort you on your Path.
3.HAVE A MOTHER GRADUATION CEREMONY
Believe it or not, being a Mother has an end. On the bright sides and on the dark sides. In case you mothered your children in modern culture, we tell you that if you want, this horror has an end. CAUTION: There will be a lot to grieve. AND there is a life after..
When your kids are young Adults and engage in Low Drama it is time to retrieve your real name, reconnect with Gaia and find your next transformative magician warrioress queen goddesses purpose! Go have a Mother Graduation Ceremony (see the website) with a circle of your friends witnessing your Graduation and signing your Graduation Certificate. The time when you had leverage to give your children what they need has passed since 5-10 years ago. If you continue to play the role of 'Mother' of your children after their 18th Birthday, you undermine their ability to face their inintiations on their own.
Take your Beep! Book and write down some of the 122 Ways to create ordinary relationship that are familiar to you.
Ordinary relationship contains creating Low Drama. Extraordinary relationships are created out of High Drama.
Writing down your ordinary mechanics opens either a doorway to an Emotional Healing Process (EHP) or ways to transform yourself from Ordinary To Extraordinary doing an Experiment. You might feel something while you write down your ways of being ordinary. Put a *sign behind 3 of the mechanics which intensely make you feel mad, sad, scared or a mix of these emotions. Each one is one EHP. Doing them is already extraordinary.
Additionaly you experiment with Change Your Mind. Your mind = Your mechanics. You can Change Your Mind about anything because it is yours. Or isn't it?Say: 'This is who I have been..., and I change my mind. I am...'
If you have gotten so far to listen through the previous podcasts and are reading this Experiment, you are interested in radical stuff! This involves making radical choices: By now you know about the choice between surviving in Partriarchy or living in Archiarchy.
Trying to do both causes huge pain. You need a lot of energy to neglect this pain if you want to endure it without changing anything. Actually you are just back in Patriarchy with a high Numbnessbar neglecting your Feelings and Emotions. One of the patriarchal symptoms is, people are spending their time and energy for something they do not like to do but convince themselves of having to do it because they convince thyselves that this is the only way possible. Therefore, for most people their Survival Strategy seems like life because they haven't been educated differently. We say, survival is survival. Living is living. They are distinct and if you are doing something out of survival, you are not living. The assumption is, that if you are working in a corporate company, this is a result of your Survival Strategy because if you are giving away your Power to someone in a Hierarchy, you are paying the very expensive price of giving your Authority away. And why would you do that exept out of unconscious survival?
Do the Emotional Healing Process (EHP) about how you made it for youself to give your Authority away in regard of your own survival. Then quit your coroporate Job and Hold Space for EHPs for money.
6.BUILD UP YOUR NEXTCULTURE SHAMANISM ANGER SKILLS Navigate your inner anger and provide sessions for other people. Doing this is part of nextculture - Archiarchy. In Archiarchy we give away navigation skills, Clarity and Space Holding as one way to share the Infinite Resources we have access to. We use them for grounding the foundation of our culture into the immaterial world. Navigating your anger makes you hold space for certain Bright Principles. For example Clarity, Integrity and Authenticity are three Bright Principles that are nourished by anger. Navigating your anger makes space for these Bright Principles. For immaterial stuff different rules apply than for material stuff.
They become more the more you give them away. Helping others to heal themselves by skilling them up with their Conscious Anger is nextculture shamanism - instead of keeping it for yourself. Helping someone to reconnect to their Conscious Anger provides them a huge resource for their Clarity. Every person you skill up with their anger, is bigger Clarity in the world. Now they can share it and so on and so on. Fantastic stuff!
7. GIVE YOURSELF A DAY BEING SOBER ON LOW DRAMA Once a week take a 24h day and forbid yourself to go to victim and hence Low Drama. See if you can be with Your Gremlin at your side and stay grounded. Figure out a way to do it. To help make this work out, find High Drama while you are doing this. NOTE: Don't beat yourself up if you find yourself in Low Drama. Just say: 'Oops, stop Gremlin! Go drink water and breathe air. I am going back to High Drama.'
8.MAKE YOURSELF SEEN IN HIGH DRAMA Take Radical Responsibility for what you want. Make yourself seen. Go to a town meeting of your town and start speaking about what you want for your town.
'I want our main street to be depaved, I want our town being a town for the people instead of the cars'. Be seen and see what happens. This is High Drama.
1. PUT THE POOP ON THE TABLE! - IN A TEAM When listening to 122 ways of creating Ordinary relationships, find something that you can relate to, make a note about it in your Beep! Book. During the week get together with 2 or 3 other people and create Experiments you can try in order to replace the behavior that creates Ordinary relationship. This is not necessarily a pleasant journey. It's putting your Poop On The Table!. You are figuring out what you don't know that you don't know about. What is hidden is put into the open. Use your Fear and Sadness to look at the things that have been invisible.
Most of what you will find are your protections against Intimacy. This is due to most people are identified with their defense strategy. If you stay naive (in Denial, Fantasy Worlds, Lying, Prejudices and Reasons) to these behaviors, these patterns will continue running in your life.
If you figure out the way you prisoned yourself in, you can unprison yourself. The way out is the way in. And if the purpose of the universe is the Evolution of Consciousness, we have work to do. It is the death and resurrection show ongoingly because change doesn't happen through understanding. Change doesn't happen in the mind. It happens trough Transformation in your 5 Bodies.
2. USE YOUR FRIENDS HELP FINDING WAYS TO SHIFT Trying the same ways over and over again is optional and only indirectly contributing to the Evolution of Consciousness on planet Earth. Whenever something doesn't work out, we call that a Beep!. You get it as a form of feedback from the Universe. It's valuable feedback saying 'This did not work.'
Feedback is valuable information for you to use. If you are trying the same way again, you are ignoring the feedback. OR your purpose is to get the same Beep!s FOREVER. Some people dedicate their life to the endless repetition of Beep!s as a way of Revenge. If this is you - read more about the purpose of Revenge using this LINK.
In this Experiment, we are about to take another door: If doing the same way again is optional, then doing it different is optional too. This new option is called doing a 'SHIFT'. And actually doing the new way rather than just preparing for it is called 'SHIFT & GO!'
When you hit the wall again about something, you smash your head for the Xth time in a relationship, a plan for your life, an application, a move to make, call up 2 of your people and ask for help to SHIFT to another way to be. Ask them to Hold Space for you and come up with new options, new Possibility to try.
You do not need to know how the SHIFT works. It's different from your behaviour before. This is all you need. No understanding, no calculation, no assumptions, no false-security nessecary. Do it and see how it goes. You receive valuable and especialle NEW information, because you have tried a new. Use this new information to either keep going if it works or find new ways to SHIFT again if you get a Beep!. It is that simple - not easy - simple! NOTE: If you end up in 'I am doing it wrong everytime, I will do it even wronger next time, I will never learn how to do it right', you are in the swamp. The swamp is a Survival Strategy place in you. You probably built to knock yourself out because it was safe there. No one bothered with you anymore and you didn't have to risk anything again. Fine, and being there drains your energy. The SHIFT is to GO! back from swamp-mode into SHIFT-mode, ask your friends what to do differently and GO! again.
3. PUT YOUR POWER INTO A SMALL NOW INSTEAD OF EVERYWHERE ELSE Freaking out and panicking before a talk in the next days means you have put your Center into the future. You are producing your own stage-fright. Having your Center in the future takes puts your Power away from the now. You can shift into having your energetical Center at your physical Center in a Minimized Now. From there, you can ask your Fear'Hello Fear, what do you have for me?'. Your Fear will have answers: 'Write down these three Distinctions for opening the space of your talk.'You write them down.Ask your Fear again: 'Anything else?'. If not, you are done, you have your preparation for the talk.Keep your Center in the Minimized Now and see how the stage-fright is only in the future. You have your preparation. By living Radical Reliance onto your own preparation, you are not the stage-fright.
4. BECOME AN ASSUMPTION SHERLOCK HOLMES - TALK TO WATSON Anyone can assume anything about anything. If you assume your Assumption is true it will turn into an Expectation. Even the smallest Expectations will most probably turn into Resentments, because they are so likely to be not met. The other person would have to accidentaly get your exact Expectation out of millions of options. The chance that this happens is high, and already having 1% Resentment will kill intimacy because you hold secret disgrace against the other person. Not knowing this can create crucial results, because you might unconsciously prevent the intimacy, that you are longing for. Putting your Assumptions on the table and is how you get out of this fraud. Take away your silent secret of believing in your Assumptions. Check them out together with the other person. This is how you can let go of your Assumptions and Expectations.
5. PRACTICE CULTURAL RELATIVITY AS A SKILL OF KEEPING YOUR CENTER Connect with other people/cultures without giving your Center away. Be amazed with their culture. Use it as form of entertainment. Ask Questions from amazement and curiosity rather than trying to change someone. Find out about their culture. 'What is it like for you, how do you handle this.....what do you do with your Feelings?'Possibility Management is not the solution or the only way to live. Free up your energy with other things and thoughts. Make yourself be inspired from what you learn from other people's culture because no culture is true or false. They are just Gameworlds with their own set of rules, distinctions, levels of responsibility, traditions, etc. ..
1. CHOOSE OPTIONS THAT ARE NOT OFFERED IN MODERN CULTURE Patriarchy is not the only way of living. How have you given away your personal ability of Choosing and live a wider variety of alternatives than are offered on the menue of western culture / Patriarchy?
To get your Power back, for this week, choose as many attitudes and actions that are not offered in modern culture. Write them down and do them with your friends. There is thousands of Possibilities. These can be very subtle things. Shake hands differently each day for a week. Start eating before the men sit and start eating. Offer the person in front of you in the queue to read them a Poem out loud. Choose to love your Partner more that anything. More than your most expensive objects. And so on and on and on.
Send what you wrote down to Clinton Callahan - clinton (at) nextculture.org
2. TAKE EACH OTHER THROUGH PROCESSES OF RECLAIMING POWER How do you reclaim the power to choose from all options possible instead of choosing from the limited options that are presented to you from the outside? The Golden Key is to find out how you are specifically pretending that you do not have the power of Choosing.
Your power of Choosing what you do or don't do is inalienable.
If you are not using this power this is because you are pretending to not have this power. Take each other through the Emotional Healing Processes about what is blocking yourself from accessing your Power and how you deny the inalienable forces you carry inside of yourself.
1. STOP YOUR SELF-CRITICISM FOR A WEEK Make an agreement with yourself for this week. No criticising yourself at all for a whole week. There is actually nothing that matters enough that you would have a reason to self criticise you. Since you dropped out of school and moved out from your parents, there might be no one who cares about your failures anymore. If there is, is it your Problem?
Every time you want to judge yourself, Cause Adventure instead. Micro, Semi, Minor, Major, doesn't matter. Adventure is Adventure. You use the energy you have in abundance from not criticising yourself anymore. NOTE: Don't beat yourself up if you cannot come up with an Adventure. Pick the Adventure how to create Adventures. Who is supposed to know how something you have never done before is done? No one.
3. BE PREDICTABLE FOR 3 DAYS IN A ROW For the next 3 days on Purpose only make linear offers to your partner and your friends. Usually the purpose to do this is to be nice, friendly, undangerous, safe and to create some sort of vanilla flavour. Only choose what is already known, say things that you have said in the past, make invitations that you have already made before, welcome your partner the same way each day, say the same things everynight before you go to bed. Be predictable. This is living an Ordinary life in extreme and sharpens your view for the Ordinary that you have so far kept well secret out of your own awareness.
4. CHOOSE FROM OPTIONS THAT ARE NOT ON THE MENUE
Your Job is to do every little Experiment you can do. Evolution of Consciousness does not happen by a big waking up of humankind. Every little step you do in changing yourself changes the human morphogenetic field. Whenever you go sideways trying a new track, a new way, you put a hole into the wall that someone else will find and be able to go through. Go and make holes by Choosing options that are not on the menue of (your own) Standad Human Intelligence Thoughtware that is promoted by modern culture. Living an Extraordinary life in Archiarchy is the ongoing collaborative creation in each moment between adult initiated women and adult initiated men. Go Nonlinear and you have a whole Life Of Practice ahead.
5. SELF OBSERVATION Carefully observe the bars of your patriarchal prison until they go fuzzy and melt down. The laws to see something a certain way melt down.
This reveals that patriarchal distortions are imaginary. You don't see that until you observe it. By scrutinising the Patriarchy it unfolds clarity in you that consciously subverts the patriarchy.
Self Observation usually equals criticism, which equals masochism. This is not what we are promoting. There is already enough masochism in the world.
Instead, learn to do Self Observation with neutrality. Move your attention outside yourself and say ( 'O' ) whenever you notice something. The('O' )is aspace like the number 'zero'with a Nothingness in it. All the stories you have about criticising, belittling and punishing yourself dissolve in there. Notice all the dimensions of the reasons, causes, Triggers and the benefits for Your Gremlin with the simply neutral ( 'O' )..
The('O' )is not an 'oh my gosh' or an 'oha'. It is simply the space of
( 'O' ).
1. SELF OBSERVATION WORK OF PATRIARCHAL MEMES IS AHEAD OF US Look at what you are looking with by building a data-bank of Self Observation. This means, start to observe yourself in what you are thinking, saying and doing. Observe the Thoughtware you are thinking with. It does not matter if what you observe is completely contradictory to each other. You are not one. You are Many. You are a Zoo of Parts.
Self-observe the Parts of Patriarchy in yourself as one of your data-bank slots. Where are you using patriarchal Thoughtware? You think in the categories of right and wrong, good and bad ? Have you shut down your intuition and numbed your Feelings? Do you think there is scarcity in love and you have to compete with others about getting enough love? Do you wake up in the morning and count your enemies? Who are you arguing with in your head blaming them from them moment you wake up?
We call patriarchal elements of thinking patriarchal Memetic Viruses or patriarchal Memes. Memes are the core instructions of your Thoughtware. You have put all sorts patriarchal Memes in yourself probably out of your Survival Strategy so to be able to survive in Patriarchy. You are not your Meme. You are not the Patriarchy. But to exit the Patriarchy, first you need to find the patriarchal Memes in yourself.
Use your Self Observation to track patriarchal Memes and write them down in your Beep! Book. Give them a name. This gives you the Power to Disidentify from these Memetic Viruses and loosen their Grip on you.
2. SUBVERT YOUR PATRIARCHAL MEMES If you are born into a worldview beyond which you parents cannot see, how can you? Well, you have have found a way out and made the effort to become an Edgeworker. You are liberating yourself from the restraints of your old worldviews and put yourself into an ongoing state of not having the numbing comfort of falling asleep. At the edge, you cannot fall asleep, otherwise you are not at the edge anymore. Here is next wake up Experiment: In everyday life, whenever you catch a patriarchal Meme in yourself say: 'This is a patriarchal Idea. I am not the Patriarchy.' Then Choose to do something different than the patriarchal Meme summons you to do.
3. USE PATRIARCHAL MEMES AS DOORWAYS Organise yourself multiple Emotional Healing Processes to exit the patriarchal Memes you wrote down step by step. Using your Self Observation to learn what you have been unconsciously thinking with is part of researching your Underworld. If you were born and raised in the Patriarchy, you have been suckling in the patriarchal Memes with your mothers milk. Questioning how they are implemented into your Underworld expands your awareness, which is the Key to exit the Patriarchy.
This is not a painfree process because you might get new and authentic answers from within yourself about who you are. This might be what you were missing while being born and raised in patriarchal modern culture.
Start each EHP with completely neutrally self observing your patriarchal Meme. Declare that it is irrelevant if what you observe is pleasant or not. No judgements. Eventually, when you are looking with enough awareness and clarity, the patriarchal Meme will start to dissolve and you will feel the Emotions about having spend your life inside of this prison while abandoning Your BeingsIntegrity.
Use your skill to Consciously Feel from your Adult Ego-State. Using this skill, you are not a victim of your Emotions and your Feelings anymore. Flow with them. You are receiving their neutral Energy and Information for you to be used for your Healing and for the Creation you are destined to Create.
4. PUT YOUR PARENTS BEHIND YOU AND START LIVING YOUR LIFE Go back to them moment when you have put your parents in front of you. Acknowledge that they brought you here on planet Earth and you lived in some respect following their orientation or the orientation they were oriented towards. This is a nature of being a child and a totally appropriate and noble decision for being able to survive. In your ancestral line you are the next person after your parents. Imagine having your parents ongoingly in front of you for your orientation beyond your childhood. You are oriented towards them for all your life. Being orientated towards them is changeable. Changing this is nessecary if you decide to live as an adult initiated women or man in Adulthood.
The way to change this is by Changing You Mind about who you are and who your parents are and where they are.
Say thank you to them and put your parents behind you. For each one remember at least one thing you can truly admire and respect and then you can put that parent behind you, with everything else you have taken with you until now.
Like this you are free from your parents forever. If someone asks you about your parents, tell them the story of your admiration. 5. USE YOUR CONSCIOUS ANGER TO CHANGE YOUR SHAPE OF BEING Do high intensity Anger in order to keep your Center and your Space and not give it away. Make boundaries, get Space back. This changes the shape of Your Being.
There is multiple Rage Clubs online and offline happening in the world. Rage Clubs are extremely safe and extraordinary spaces for you to reconnect with the archetypal force of your Anger and held spaces for you to learn how to use its energy and information for being able to take care of yourself and Create.
Check out the online Possbility Management Events TeamUp-calendar HERE or the Possibility Management Global Events Telegram Group HERE.
6. BRING FORTH WHAT IS WITHIN YOU SO YOU ARE NOT EATEN UP Express your Feelings and Emotions with one or two other people 2 or 3 times a week. Remove an Energetic Block, connect with something you gave away to survive, make a new decision. It makes a difference when someone can Hold Space and witness your Feelings. Being in Your Team while doing these little Completions will add an catalytic element to your Transformation. It will look like baby-steps or nano-steps but having two people Being With you will move you forward because your Emotions are completed layer after layer. If you keep feeling them just for yourself, you go in circles, because they stay uncompleted.
Said in a more radical way: If you bring forth what is within you, it will save you. If you don't, it will destroy you.
1. REVIEW YOUR INTEGRITY ABOUT YOUR NAME If you ask people to call you by another name besides the name on your passport, this is a sign of incongruency. There is some energetical conflict in you to be looked at. Maybe Your Gremlin is putting a show on about who you pretend to be, but you are not. Maybe you are scared of acutally Choosing to Become Authentic and to Take A Stand for who you are! Maybe you are using the other name to make up a Fantasy World so you can think you are not affected by the identity and the stories of your pevious name. That all would be ways of living in Denial of who you are. Create Integrity and check out what is really going on behind your new name.
2. CAN YOU AFFORD A LIFE BELOW YOUR NUMBNESS BAR? Have the courage to get below your Numbness Bar this week and feel the pain below, especially Anger, Fear and Sadness. The pain is transformational fire. Feel your pain around the Patriarchy etc. Don't be a victim of your pain. Your are going below your Numbness Bar out of Clarity, not out of victimhood. Feel it and then use the pain for Evolution. Do the EHP's so you can hold your Sword Of Clarity. Doing your EHP's will give you Clarity that you use in Holding Space for others.
3. MEN Arrange for 15 Women to give a group of you feedback about how the Patriarchy affects Women. Make this space go on for one hour. Break open as the Women go on speaking from their fiercful broken hearts, desirering to be equally met on eyelevel and on heartlevel. Listen to them. Listen to their Anger, their Fear, their Sadness, their Sorrow, their Grief, their Rage, their Forgiveness, their brokenness and their Love. Stand in what you are hearing. Keep breathing while you are supported to face into Reality. Your Job is to receive and let things burn. Just listen......
5. Women: Say what you want in relationships. Don't pander to Patriarchy. 6. SHIFT CONVERSATIONS WITH YOUR QUESTIONS Get better about creating shifts in a conversation which sometimes can happen through questioning. Go Nonlinear. Stay in Connection with Clarity if the other person gets Hooked and tries to defend themselves with their Gremlin.
Out of your Research, Create yourself a List 10-15 questions that have proven power to work for shifting conversations. Use them! 7.LOW DRAMA IS CREATED BY MYSELF Every time I end up in Low Drama, it means I wanted Low Drama. I ask myself what Part of me wanted this? Especially if I make sarcastic comments. Get to know your Parts. Look at this website: Set Context and learn how to shift from Ordinary to Extraordinary conversations.
2. Harry And Samantha: Harry and Samantha conversations are Clinton's favorite and can be accessed on HERE. 3. TRAIN YOUR SPECIFIC APPLICATION OF RADICAL KNOWLEDGE Read the S.P.A.R.K.s one at a time and do the Experiments. Some of them need to be done in a Team. All of them can be done in a Team. Doing them in a Team multiplies your experiences in learning and skillbuilding to Become Present while you are experimenting. You learn from what other people learn about. Share your discoveries with your Team and other Possibility Managers.
Listen to the conversations about specific S.P.A.R.K.s HERE. 4. UNSPLIT YOUR ATTENTION Practice focusing on the conversation at hand. Avoid eating, drinking or doing other tasks. This splits Your Attention between the conversation and the other thing you are doing.
The big price to pay is you don't get to be a victim, or feel oppressed, or blame the other sex anymore. The price is you get to put the weapons down and to have no Gremlin feeding anymore. The game is over!It' time for StartOver! 7. FIRE YOUR PARTNER Tell your partner: 'You are fired! You no longer have the job of being a prison guard, parent, rescuer, etc. I refuse this position for you. The job is gone or re-organized!'
Decide who you want to be outside of the package you normally are with different people. Who are you outside of your Box? Drop your old stories and orient yourself anew from an interesting Point Of Origin.
You must tell Your Gremlin to sit, otherwise you are not in the drivers seat. Only then you can Become Authentic with your old decisions. Having Clarity creates Possibility. Use your Self-Observation to create Clarity for new Possibilities: How does my behavior manifest. Start by noticing it. Then catch it after you do the behavior, eventually catch it before it happenes. Determine which Ego-State it belongs in. For each Ego-State except the Adult, you make a distinct space outside of your Bubble. Use your Conscious Anger for your intention to move the energy and behaviour back into the Ego-State it belongs. And do an EHP.
The conscious use of Gremlin is to tell your Gremlin to stay or sit, and when to say to someone 'this conversation is over'. Your Gremlin has the ability to interrupt. Either you make it serving your Bright Principles or you don't. If not, Your Gremlin will serve your Shadow Principles.
1. PLANT YOUR POINT OF ORIGIN IN A NEW CONTEXT Each of us has a signal source, which is a reference point where we are at in life. You are emanating from this Point Of Origin. Everything you do, feel, think, speak and Choose comes from there. If not inspected, it's usually an old Context with an old Point Of Origin. In the last years you probably have gone through several initiatory processes into Adultood. Click the training you went through the last years into your current space. Since the beginning of your Path you have grown and now you have new options to plant your Point Of Origin.
Look and see which old Context your Point Of Origin is in, and transplant it into the new Context. It could go from an ordinary to an extraordinary Context.
2. CHANGE YOUR DEFAULT ANGRY-NESSBeing Adaptive is one core Survival Strategy to hold back your Anger. To get out of that, spend 30 days expressing Anger whenever it comes up, regardless of how much Gremlin is included. Tell people in your community what you are experimenting with. Adapt to nothing and withhold nothing. You will have a changed relationship with your Anger. Then become an agent for the next Experiment = Become An Experimenter.
3. Follow moral rage back to Point Of Origin. See if you have been Adaptive for a long time. What potentials are being blocked by following herd behavior? Put it on the table with others by taking Radical Responsibility for it. Just by bringing it up you Build Matrix, regardless of what changes.
4. CHANGE PAST LIFE DECISIONS THAT ARE DIRECTING YOUR LIFE Do a Past Live Cellular Memory Process to see where old Decisions came from. Some Decisions and stories were made in past lives, and brought into this life to continue working on. Until you go back and disband their power from the past, they will have power over your life in the Present.
3. BEING YOURSELF Call two people up and ask the following question as an Intiatory Process - 'How am I doing being myself?'
4. GAMEWORLD CHANGER - DO THIS FOR A PROJECT OR IN AN ORGANISATION
a. Hold a group space for boys 18 and under. Support them and have a conversation about asking dangerous questions, navigating Patriarchy, living outside the Box, and about School. Create a mindcraft game with them to Create a Village.
b. Hold a group for the parents of these boys to support them to talk to their sons about their Feelings and perspectives.
1. SELF OBSERVATION AND NOTICINGTake a Part of Your Attention and put it outside yourself to simply notice what you are doingand saying. This Builds Matrix. Building Matrix lets you hold more Consciousness. To be more conscious is a core element of being able to take more responsibility and becoming capable to create what YOU want to create. If you are more conscious and responsible, then WE get to be more Present and Conscious with how we are spending time because you start to Hold Space with Noticing and Your Attention. Avoid judging yourself.
2. BE AT SOURCE FOR YOUR TEAM Hold Space for a Possibility Team and use the SPARKs for Experiments, or hold a WorkTalk about something that interests you. Invite people to join in. This way you build you start to play a new game. The Game of Creation instead of Scarcity. A team that is is not already there is yet to be created by you. You want to be on a Team? GO! 3. WHATEVER YOU DO SHAPES YOU INTO WHO YOU AREThrow yourself into a new shape by learning a new skill, Becoming Committed to something without knowing how, or by making a new Choice.
This allows you to Shift Identity and create new results that before you might have thought are not possible. They become possible by you having taken a new shape. The Universe now has freedom to make use of you differently. You are the one making yourself! Who are you becoming next?
4. ABRAKADABRA - I CREATE AS I SPEAKE Make this Declaration - "I (speak your name), take a stand for doing the next step of my Initiatory Process for authentic Adulthood and taking Radical Responsibility.' - Then name it, Go! and do it!
5. RESENTMENT IMMEDIATELY KILLS INTIMACY Making any Assumption (even a tiny one) about anything is the first step for having Resentments - The moment you assume, your Assumption almost secretly turns into an Expectation because you might live with this unconscious Belief that your Assumptions are true. Voilá - you have evolved towards having an Expectation. Having an Expectation then leads you towards having Resentment, because your Expectations cannot ever be fully met. Who is supposed to read them from your heart? - Your Partner? If so: Aha! How is your Partnership going?
An unfulfilled Expectation turns into Resentment because it cannot be met - voilá again - you have evolved. Now, with the Resentment, Your Gremlin has every right to block Intimacy from the person you have the Resentment with. This is fooling yourself and paying a high price.
Re-Establish your Intimacy and say this sentence once a day everyday for a month or a year: 'I withdraw the expectation that (say your expectations for a person or situation), forever!'
1. THE WORS ANSWER YOU MIGHT GET IS EITHER NO OR YES In A Small Now there is no Space and no Time for anything else than 'right now'. Stories happen in time. The Belief of 'I will not get what I want' is a Story. Stories are not now! Stories happen in time. Having a want is 'right now' , without a story. Drop your Stories:
Ask for what you want, even when you think its impossible. It's only stories. 2. WHO DECIDES WHETER YOU ARE PART OF SOMETHING OR NOT? Consider yourselves invited to, and included in, EVERYTHING (avoid feeling excluded to anything). 3. CHILDHOOD WOUNDS OFTEN HAPPEN WITH LACK OF CONNECTION - CREATE YOURSELF HEALING IN CONNECTION Create a team of people who want to Connect with each other for Emotional Healing Processes.
1. YOU FIND ECSTASY IN ALL YOUR BODIES Grant yourself permission to have short term ecstasy or Joy in any of the Five Bodies. This helps us enter Extraordinary worlds. An Extraordinary world is any situation, in which you go off track from the Ordinary standard normal conversation or action that you have done already outnumerous times before. You create out of a Minimized Now, you are Present, you Decide and Choose which offers of Intimacy you make and accept. The short term ecstasy of your body gives you the spark for your next move.
2. WHITE WIDOW IS A CHOICE - CONSCIOUS OR UNCONSCIOUS Recognize the White Widow in you if it’s there. This is whenever you are making a conversation 'easy' by exchanging your sexual Energy: Certain looks, a random smile here and there, curling your hair so people look at you, the soothing or arousing tone of your voice, etc.. Is this true Connection? Allow it to die all the way in order to see what is under it.
For that to happen, you will go through several Emotional Healing Processes. Old decisions about the favours you get by exchanging your sexual energy might come up.
When you transform this Energy, let all sexual Energy go. Notice when eye contact and physical touch becomes an Authentic experience of Connection.
3. CREATE A SHADOW RESEARCH GROUP Ask others to join you in doing shadow work to identify your Shadow Principles. Your Shadow Principles determine your life if you don't stop using them consciously. Which Principles are you serving? What's your purpose(s)? Your Team definately has valuable Feedback for you, because Your Box is blind for your own theatre, your show, your inbetween secret missions. Write a statement about your Shadow Principles and share it with others.
1. SELF OBSERVATIONS UNFOLD YOUR CREATIVE POTENTIALSSelf Observe and make note of the types of conversations you start. What are you Speaking? After one week, see what kinds of conversations you start and the limits they contain. Practice starting other kinds of conversations that you have never started before….these conversations have no barriers. Notice the barriers up when talking to specific people. What's the cause for your barrier? - Is it unconscious Fear of Connection?
Only you can melt down your barriers, and unravel your creative Potentials hidden behind them.
2. BECOME AUTHENTIC BY LEARNING ABOUT YOUR INAUTHENTICITY Get into a group of 3. One coach and one person speaking authentically to a third person. The third person tell the speaker what you noticed about how authentic they were when speaking. (i.e.: 'I see your foot moving, or suppressing your breath, and you aren’t saying why your foot is moving or why you are suppressing your breath.').
Coach, you coach the third person giving feedback so that they have a chance to improve their feedback in Clarity and Being With the other person.
Do 4 minutes per round with 2 minutes speaking and 2 minutes feedback in each round. Two rounds per person, then shift to the next constellation.
3. SHIFT YOUR SHAPE FOR CONSCIOUS INTERACTIONS Ask yourself what your conscious intention is, what are the subtleties behind an action that might be unconscious….even something like shaking a hand. Building Matrix by becoming aware of your own unconscious intentions changes the shape of Your Being. Start practicing not Reacting to unconscious conversations anymore. Now you are open to other types of Conversations. Open up door after door to other dimensions, in ways we can Be Present together.
5. CONQUERING UNKNOWN DOMAINS OF YOURSELF Become aware of your conscious Purpose and intention, and then be silent to see what happens. Choose a different option to interact with and see what changes. Stop playing out a role. You will have Power in Domains you weren’t aware of before.
Do EHP’s with others when Emotions come up. This will help unleash dams and Blocks that keep us from being the same way we are now, playing a role.
6. YOUR ARE A TIME MAKER - FOR ANYTHING AND YOUR WILDNESS Consciously take blocks of time to allow wildness to come through you. To experience this wildness, do things without censoring yourself. Don’t allow your Mind to take over. WE have long packed away this wildness for Fear of changing our image. There is no difference between 'Gremlin Feeding Time' and allowing the unconscious state to take over.
7. CHANGE THE STORY AT RUN BY SHIFTING IDENTITY All your Identities and start changing them from unconscious to conscious. Catch yourself in an Identity (i.e.: perfectionist, victim, sneaky one….) then Shift Your Identity to a new character with a new story. (i.e.: enter the Dragon and let something else speak, present the Goddess, reveal yourselves)
What seems true in one Identity is not even a thing in another one. If you are: Do you really need to be sly, shy and invisible? Who Chooses? Who do you choose to be? What do you create? Why? Who do you want to be? - Your Practice, your choice!
8. COME CLOSER, MUCH CLOSER, EVEN MORE CLOSE See what happens when you get very close to the Zoom screen….close enough so we can see your pores. Stay there and be seen.
9. BREAK YOUR OWN RULES TO BREAK FREE FROM YOUR OWN CONSTRAINTS Behave consistently in an inconsistent way (i.e.: be silent when you normally talk, stop judging when you normally judge, keep something for yourself when you normally give away without hesitance, etc...).
10. WHAT YOU DON'T SEE IS MADE INVISIBLE BY ... YOU! Look for people you “can’t see” on the streets, and then talk to them. See what they are up to. They are probably not normal people.
What is Normal? Your Box and Survival Strategies have a very selective perception. These Parts of you make you select Your Attention
11. Re-invent yourself in a certain way to Jack into your archetypal lineage.
12. Notice the purpose for your interactions. If you find yourself purposeless, then lay on the floor until you do what you really want to do. Could be hours there. Only move when you have a purpose. What kind of wildness can come out as a result.
1. NOBODY CAN TURN YOU INTO A ... Persecutor, Rescuer, Victim. These 3 roles are nesserary to have a life full of Low Drama. Low Drama are all the stories you create about pretending to have no Responsibility. Especially when you try to convince yourself to be a victim, you pretend to have no Responsibilty. Without a victim, there is no Low Drama.
To take back the power of Choosing about this, it helps to use and recognize the following metaphore as true: What you have is what you want. This is a gateway to Responsibility. Because what you wanted is what you have chosen (... at least some Parts of you).
Compare that metaphore to living in the fantasy of that you are the victim of the circumstances. Which story gives you more Power?
Today, go Change something internally or externally that allows you to feel like a victim. De-victimize yourself by taking Responsibility. You decide about the story instead of the story deciding over you!
2. WRITE FROM YOUR RELATIONAL EXPERIENCES Write a 2 page article about the learning you have received from being in relationship. BE radically honest!
Through society, church, movies and advertisements people have been trained from their youth to long for stability in Relating. But this longed for stability is a fantasy world and a dead space. It is mechanical.
If you have been living in relationship and know about this, write about it!
This is a doorway for others to connect with you. Share the treasures and dark shadows, especially about when the bottom falls out and all stability vanishes.
Also write about your discoveries regarding how to stay at the balance point in between the dillusional stories of everything is fine & everything is horrible. Write from your Experience of being at this instable place of Creation: Relating is ongoing Nonlinear Creation!!!
3. IF SOMETHING OR SOMEONE STOPS YOU FROM BEING LOVING Love is always accessible and everpresent, because Love is archetypal. Archetypal forces are forces of Nature. We can learn to access them.
1. IF YOU DON'T HAVE A CONSCIOUS PURPOSE, UNCONSCIOUS PURPOSES HAVE YOU The 1st purpose of Box is survival (see Survival Strategies). Your Box is an unconscious set of Rules, Buttons, Books, Triggers and old Thoughtware leading to predictable Reactivity. It is mechanic and has saved your life until now. Something else is possible: Survival is distinct from Living Full Out.
Survival = fighting against scarcity. Living = Creation.
Survival = defending & attacking. Living = Negotiation.
2. YOU HAVE A BOX. PEOPLE HAVE A BOX. EVERYONE HAS A BOX Next time you walk down the street, notice how Your Box unconsciously, and for its survival, makes stories about others.
Next, sit in a public place with another, and scan to see if you can read peoples Boxes. Then make conscious stories up about their Boxes and share them with your experiment-partner sitting next to you. Notice the difference between the Box and the Being of the Person that your are scanning.
If you cannot see their Box, it’s possible they have more Matrix than you. Talk to them and see what might happen.
3. YOUR BOX IS OPTIONAL. SO ARE ALL THE OTHER OPTIONS Hold your palm open and at your side. Use your Clicker to shrink down Your Box into the palm of your hand. Now, without the protection of Your Box, notice how you relate to other people, problems, and what’s possible in Your Being. Without Box' protection in the way, modern culture is subverted.
Notice entirely new ways of speaking & being.
4. LIFE IS TRANSFORMATIONAL AND THIS CAN BE CELEBRATED
Do an EHP about a loss in your life...could be the loss of Your Box as you knew it. You must go into a Liquid State for change to happen. Grieve your old Identity, old stories, old Illusions. Each tiny death needs a Liquid State for change to occur. You must feel each Feeling of Sadness, Fear, Anger and Joy for change to happen. Then celebrate each Feeling expressed.
1. TURN YOUR BOX' HABITS AROUND Your Box has preferences because they mean safety for Your Box.
We generally scan other people and talk to those who have similar Boxes. GO talk to the people who are invisible to you. Tell them: “I am doing an experiment of talking to people who I do not notice right away. Would you be willing to tell me why you are not notice-able to me?
Do this experiment for the rest of the year. Go to those who you resonate with the least. Write an Article about your discoveries!
2. PAYING ATTENTION TO HOW YOU TAKE CARE Learning to take care of yourself is Phase 1 of Adulthood. Phase II of Adulthood is living your life in wellbeing. It follows Phase I.
This involves the nessecity, that you know what you are capable of..
Practice Phase I:
Pay attention to how you take care of yourself. Write it down. When you can trust yourself to take care of yourself then it expands your horizons and prepares you for Phase II - Living Full Out as a Free And Natural Adult.
b. Then, read another extraordinary book from the List..
4. THOSE WHO LOOK ARE THOSE WHO SHALL SEE ... AND FIND THE NEW Closely investigate the Purpose of Your Box. The more you look at something the more you are able to change it. By Expanding Your Box (also see Expand The Box Training) you have more freedom to change your behaviors. In this case Expand Your Box by making a list of 5-10 for each of your Boxes'..
Set your inner alarm (Purpose Sniffer) for every item on your List. Each time one of these is about to secretly take over your behaviour, let your Purpose Sniffer GO WILD! MEEP! MEEP! MEEP!
Then - Do anything else but what your Reactivity (a.-f.) suggests you. This is your life and your change of behaviors!
5. The Transformational Sabatical - A Must Don't Do Anything: Notice how you have created your current reality. Tiredness could mean you are going through a transformational Process and are inbetween Phase 1 & Phase II of a 3 Phase-Healing Process.
Take 1, 2, or 3 days to do nothing but sleep.
Don’t read, watch movies, or be on your phone...
6. CREATE A VACUUM LEARNING ENVIRONMENT FOR YOURSELF Get with another and use the vacuum method to receive Feedback. Learn about the process on the Vacuum Learning website.
For 2 weeks have 3 weekly meetings together and practice the process of Vacuum Rapid Learning, both as a Client and a Coach.
- Create sessions of 60 minutes with -
a. 5 minutes check-in in the beginning
b. 25 minutes per person (switch Client and Coach role)
1. FROM THE POSSIBILITY FILM LIST Watch the movie Hook by Steven Spielberg for a heart opening experience and possible Liquid State. To be in an authentic Liquid State means you are evolving. Evolution happens faster and more severe when you do it in a Team. Go invite your Team over to have a transformational movie night with a discussion afterwards about what touched you and what changed you.
2. YOUR MECHANICS ARE JUST MECHANICS To be free of them, you got to know them. Otherwise you don't know how Your Box operates and you simply follow the behavior patterns you installed years ago for being able to survive modern culture's insanities.
Look at Your Box with detailed Clarity. Make notes in your Beep! Book in an extra chapter called: MY BOX MECHANISMS.
To sharpen your Clarity, read and learn about the 18 Boxes. Which one('s) do you use? Becoming aware of this frees us from being trapped and is great for Box Expansion. Then, when you are skilled in scanning your own Box with Clarity - provide your skills to another person by offering to scan their Box. Show them how to keep researching for themselves.
3. YOUR TEAMS AND PARTNERS HAVE VALUABLE FEEDBACK FOR YOU Doing the lone-wolf thing can be extremely exhausting, unsuccesful and no fun except having the ecstacy of doing maniac isolated work. For many of us, it is an underworld behavior to do things just by myself.
4. STRENGTHEN YOUR IDENTITY(IES) WITH YOUR ARCHETYPAL LINEAGE Use your Energetic Body to notice details of your own Archetypal Lineage: What are you here for? What is your job in the Village? what Knacks and skills do you carry with you? What food do you provide for others? When you provide food for others, you provide food for yourself.
5.CREATE AND BE AWARE OF YOUR RESONANCE FIELD The Universe is a gigantic Feedback generator. You do something and it works or doesn't. Both is Feedback. You do something else, you get Feedback again. One of the most powerful ways to avoid Learning and to receive the same Feedback over and over again, is to hide from the world: To be a 'not seen' which has 'nothing to offer'.
That's probably not, what you are here for. You have something to contribute.
Unconscious Fear of receiving negative Feedback stops many people of doing their first step. There is no such thing as 'negative Feedback'. Feedback is neutral and carries very valuable information for YOU! In modern culture, we just did not learn, that it is okay to get Beeps! Beeps! are quote on quote 'negative Feedback', meaning, something did not work the way you did it. That's all - it's neutral.
Make use of the Feedback the Universe wants to give you. Serve other people to receive more teachings for yourself. If you get a GO! keep going, if you get a Beep! that's your teaching. Make a SHIFT and try again..!
6. OFFER YOUR 5 BODY SCAN FOR FREE AS YOUR TRAINING Go to a café or mall and scan another person’s 5 Bodies. Detect what is going on in each of their Bodies, then check it out. Go to that person and say: “I am in a class to scan people’s 5 Bodies….can I check in with you to see how accurate I am?” Use the Feedback you get to refine your scanning skills.
7. KNOW WHAT YOU ARE PRACTICING If you look around, you can find evidence to support the story that the purpose of the Universe is Evolution. This includes you - and the Evolution of Consciousness! You might be in service for this Evolution.. Ask yourself: What practices am I doing? What Tools am I using? Who is my partner for doing Experiments with? Who are my Team members?
9. SHARE WITH THIS / YOUR GROUP EACH WEEK What you are practicing, what you are discovering, what’s unfolding for you, what new things are you trying?
Whatever you put into the Morphogenetic Field has ripple effects. You create a Resonance Field. If you share your practice, discoveries, unfoldings and new things, the ripples will come from what's alive in you. If you unconsciously share something less alive from you, what will the ripples be then..?
10. MAKE YOUR QUESTIONS YOUR 5 BODY QUEST-IONS
Since your 5 Bodies are interlinked, Transformation only occurs, if at least 3 of your 5 Bodies are in a transformational Process with a Liquid State. To Change Your Mind by only changing your mind will most likely not make any difference. Your other Bodies have not changed. How should anything else change then anyways?
Expand your questions, Your Quest-Ions to all 5 Bodies rather than only to your intellect. Ask which Body is asking this Question, and expand the Question to include your other bodies. Write down the changes each of your Bodies goes through, and see how they are supporting (or inhibiting each other - if one of the bodies stays with the old pattern).
11. QUESTIONS ARE POWERFUL TOOLS FOR HUMAN INTERACTION Explore the lack or excess of each Question you ask or are being asked. Let yourself be inspired or identify the lack of inspiration and change the Context of the conversation to move forward and create a more Extraordinary conversation.
You can use a Metaconversation about Questions as a doorway into the Extraordinary.
1. YOU ARE HAVING FEELINGS WHEN YOU THINK OF SOMETHING ELSE Lower your Numbness Bar for each Feeling so you can feel the lower levels (0-10%). For Example: I feel 8% angry that the fridge is making noise….keep going. Feelings are there 24/7 and are an Archetypal Resource. Use it daily asking what is the Feeling (Anger, Fear, Sadness, Joy) telling me?
Lower your Numbness Bar for each Feeling and speak about as many things as you can think about..
2. ASSUMING YOUR ASSUMTIONS ARE TRUE IS MAKING AN EXPECTATION When you assume that your Assumption is true, it turns into an Expectation. Expectations are immediately poisonous for any other Relating than Gremlin-Relating, because they only can be failed. And a failed Expectation creates Resentment and Disappointment - thanks to Your Gremlin..!
Go the next step and figure out what the benefit/motivation of you and your Gremlin is, to assume that your Assumptions are true. Write down what you discover on a page dedicated to your 'Shadow Purposes Research'.
3. BECOME AN ASSUMPTION RESEARCHER Track your Assumptions, write them down, then see how long you can go without making any Assumptions.
4. FIGHTING PATRIARCHY OR CREATING ARCHIARCHY - WITHING YOURSELF Practice letting your shape go soft so you can welcome Archiarchy into the next situation your are in rather than fighting with the Patriarchy.
Patriarchy and Archiarchy are Gameworlds. On Gameworld Theory you find our updated version of R. Buckminster Fuller's observation - we say:"You never change things by fighting against the existing Gameworlds. You change things by building new Gameworlds that make the existing Gameworlds irrelevant."
Can you make Patriarchy irrelevant by changing your shape?
5. USING YOUR PHYSICAL BODY TO AVOID FEELING To avoid feeling is part of the Survival Stragies that you and other people most likely have built. This was nessecary for survival. Feeling consciously is not survival. Feeling unconsciously though often is.
...I think you get the point. Fighting and fixing all this enforces their power - instead: Practice Self Observation and feel the pain of what you notice and notice how long you have been doing this. Just noticing will allow the force of observation to start making the changes.
2. EXPERIMENT WITH INQUIRY Avoid asking for feedback, instead ask for Explanations. Open the Vacuum space with a question.'What could change so I can connect with you better?'
3. FEAR IS USEFUL FOR INCREASING YOUR QUALITY OF RELATING In case you are missing ways of Relating that nurture Your Being - here is a question: Are you afraid to not find what you wish for, in any next moment?
If so, you have just discovered a powerful allie to create what you are missing. Your Fear. Your Fear has energy and information for you that you can use to sensitively navigate and Negotiate Intimacy with someone else. Use your Fear as a guideline to determine what to negotiate with another person. Ask your Fear: 'Hello Fear, what do you have for me?' ... Use the information and energy you get from your Fear to make an Offer for Intimacy. Re-negotiate any moment your Fear has new energy and information for you! You never need to stop doing this - practice Radical Relating.
Your Questions are Doorways towards the mastery of your Feelings. Ask. Feel. Practice. Explore. Share. Ask again. Feel again. Practice again. Explore again... And so on - Welcome to Archiarchy.
2. COMPLETE INCOMPLETE EMOTIONS FROM THE PASTWhatever incomplete Emotions you carry, they are your Baggage. Baggage is blocking your from moving forward. Completing Encomplete Emotions is one way to trop Baggage. Spend the first hour of your next family gathering doing this i.e.: 'I never told you how glad I was to hear you tell me what a great math student I was...I never told you how sad I was you didn't come with us on holidays because you were busy...I never told you how scared I was asking you for a hug longer than 4 seconds...'
Then see what you will create having this newly recovered inner Space.
3. GET A SENSE OF YOUR ARCHETYPAL WARRIOR/ESS
Who is the turned on Power of your Anger? Sit back, close your eyes, picture the figure in your mind. Take a deep breath, and allow this to become your self Identity. Feel the Warrior/ess inside you in your bones and let your body awaken with that level of Guardianship, alertness, action and taking care of things.
Take another deep breath and let your Sadness stellate, the one who is vulnerable, might disappear, and is undefended. Let that one stand beside the Warrior/ess.
Let your stellated Fear, the Creator, who has no control and is joyful in groundlessness, allowing surprise and Non-Linearity, the wizard, the lady of the lake, all inside you create the fourth of your 4 Lineages.
The consolidating Sorceress who is giving back to you as the Giver, the Gameworldbuilder. She’s the Space-Holder and has direct access to abundance. The one who is empowered, shares this power, and feels no scarcity.
Let your inner Sorceress (Joy) stand next to your Creator (Fear) and Warrior (Anger) and Lover (Sadness). Keep breathing. Slowly open your eyes and look at another person. See these Parts in them and speak about what you see.
4. MINIMIZE YOUR NOW AND NOTICE THE ARCHETYPAL QUALITIES IN OTHERS By Becoming Present, meaning Being With what is, you get access to the 9 Gaps. Through the Gaps, you can go anywhere in Space, Time, Noise, Knowledge, Identity, Gameworld, Communication, Thoughware and Resonance Field you want. With the Gap of Identity, you can go to and see any Identity you want to meet besides the Ordinary. Using this Doorway gives you access into the Extraordinary Worlds where you will be meeting others within their Archetypal qualities.
Minimize Now and walk up to them one at a time and speak about what you see.
How and why do you make the authority figures in your life?
During the next weeks, do the Experiment of seeing how people put you on a pedestal and how you put people on a pedestal.
Have Meta-Conversations with the people you put on a pedestal or who put you on a predestal as a new and alive form of authentic and Radical Relating on Eyelevel - Together find out what is going on..!
Write down your research in your Beep! Book and send your notes to 'firstname.lastname@example.org' so we can put them onto the 'Your Status' website.
1. ALLOW QUIET MOMENTS TO EXIST WITHOUT MAKING CONVERSATION when in a room with others.
2. ASK FOR AN EMOTIONAL HEALING PROCESS when Emotions are present: I.e. 'doing something the right way or otherwise you will get punished.' Doing the Emotional Healing Process the moment while the Emotion is present is writing a new story in present tense. You are using the Energy and Information of your Anger / Fear / Sadness / Joy for Healing instead of having to use energy for 'keeping' the Emotion accessible until you can do the EHP.
3. NOTICE HOW OFTEN YOU USE THE WORDS NEVER OR ALWAYS for the next week.
PART 1 Catch yourself and see how your Gremlin is defending your Box. - Never is almost never true and always is always a generalisation that is almost never as accurate as reality always is.
Why are you using these two words?
What are you trying to say by using them?
Do you have any Expectations that are not met and therefore you feel righteous abous saying 'never' or 'always'?
For the following week make a list of the 'nevers' and 'alwayses' that you are using and with hom you use them. After that - go on to the next step - researching your Expectations.
PART 2 Using thes two generalisations 'never' / 'always' to cover up Expectations is a way to hide your Resentments. Resentments are Gremlin Food, immediately destroying Intimacy with the person towards which you are holding your Resentments.
Wherever you are having a Resentment, Intimacy is impossible. These are crucial consequences to consider relating to someone you love.
This means you are facing serious difficulties causing true and vulnerable Intimacy and Connection. By sticking to the words 'never' / 'always' you let your Gremlin off the leash serving your Shadow Principles on cost of Connection and Intimacy.
To find out how to dismantle your resentments read whole following paragraph and do the process. Find a Spaceholder to do it with you: Dismantling Resentments
4. NOTICE WHEN YOUR GREMLIN IS OFF IT'S LEASH (ie arguing with someone) Kindly put your Gremlin back on it’s leash. Doing this, you are exiting the concurrence-driven world of being right about something. This gives you new opportunity, because you are making use of a powerful Distinction: 'You strenghen what you oppose.'
Instead of arguing, join the other persons research or ask them to say more about what they are saying. Thank them for their point of view. Mean it. See the results.
When there is still arguing going, find your Gremlins other purpose and kindly put it back on it's leash. Do this until you are not arguing anymore.
What is the benefit of feeding this particular Food?
What is the price for letting Gremlin eat each particular Food?
You are doing Self Observation. Do not use what you see for judging youself. This would be just another Gremlin Food. After going through many of your Foods, you start getting to know your Gremlin.
Now your Gremlin is seen by you (awake, empowered and in your service) and you can use it consciously, rather than it sneaking around trying to survive.
2. GET CLARITY ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE COMMITTING TO which comes with your Sword so you can make better chocolate/love/relationships. The Sword is to make better chocolate. The committment is to make a yummy space. You must have both or the space becomes adaptive. I’m committing to something else besides your comfort. I am committing to connection between our Beings in favour for Causing Transformation. If you use your Clarity only, it precludes Intimacy. What is your Clarity committed to? If you are not conscious about this, Clarity might right now the one fo your 4 Enemies.
Distinctions bring Clarity and Clarity provides form. Using Clarity opens up a contained Space in which the formlessness can do it's job. Creating out of nothing is a Sourceress skill to be Practiced in the great use of Distinctions.
Without Distinctions there isn’t enough Clarity in the Space. Without Clarity, the access to Possibility is blocked. And Possibility is a keystone Principle for Improvisation. What are the Infinite Resources for your improvisation if not the Possibilities accessible through your Clarity?
Get a buddy (or two buddies) and together decontaminate your Adult Ego State from your Gremlin Ego State including your Parent and Child Ego States.
Doing decontamination work requires a Team. Your Team will able to see what you don't see but is right in front of you. Old behaviour patterns derived from a Contamination are so ingrained, that you need your Teams' Swords to have leverage on making Space for a new behaviour.
5. USE YOUR BEEP! BOOK AND DISTINGUISH WHICH 'I' IS TALKING You might find 20 Identities. Each Identity is an assemblance of one or many of your Parts. We Humans have Parts? Yes? Yes!! Thats why we say - know thyselves - rather than 'know yourself' ...
NOTE: Doing this, is an Initiation. The Fantasy World of the one 'I' that you might be neglects the various, different, adjuvant, contradictory, cooperating and conflicting purposes your Parts and Identities (may) have. Leaving this Fantasy World behind gives you the chance to perceive responsibility in a new light - and to experiment with Radical Responsibility.
After you have a list of your Identities, ask for help identifying which identity is speaking in which moment. Write down what you learn and build out your Identities. You are in a Zoo!
1. MOVIE RECOMMENDATION Watch In And Of Itself - The question is: Who Am I? - If you are having that question, this seems like a great Doorway for watching the movie...
2. USE CONSCIOUS ANGER TO KEEP THE INTERNAL FIRE LIT and to respond to external stimulus such as: Clean the closets, pay bills, maintain eye contact, say YES and NO, write down something you might forget, be punctual, answer the true question, etc. ..
This is Phase 2 of using Conscious Anger. You use it as an everyday ingredient to master your Middleworld. So that you Make Time and Hold Space to discover the Underworlds and Upperworlds of yourself and others consciously. Life is happening in the Three Worlds. Low Drama (living out unconscious underworld purposes like complaining, judging, blaming,..) is not life! This Distinction becomes a 5 Bodies awareness once you started using your Anger to bring Clarity and reliability towards your Middleworld actions: If you manage to keep Low Drama out of your Middleworld. You complete the arrands not just to have them completed or because your are forced to. But because a well functioning Middleworld is part of living an Extraordinary life in which you follow your Archetypal Lineage.
3. MOVING FROM ORDINARY SPACES (STORIES, COMPLAINING) TO EXTRAORDINARYby leaning into the conversation and energetically moving it to Extraordinary.
How can you have this conversation in a way that neither you nor the other person knows what either one of you will be saying next? You are sourcing the Extraordinary!
4. ASK NON-LINEAR QUESTIONS INSTEAD OF 'How are you'?
Asking 'how are you?' is like giving a sleeping pill to the other person. Probably they have a standardized answer for your standardized question. Yes, human mechanics can and DO function that simple. That's why we call it having a Box. Offering a Box-question will likely provoke a Box-answer, espeacially if the other person didn't practice Building Matrix for Negotiating Intimacy. True Intimacy happens on a fine line.
Everytime the 'how are you?' is on your lips, take a breath, wait through the second and third thought, then ask your Non-linear question.
Asking a Non-linear question is a different Offer than asking from your Box. You are actually a multidimensional Being ready to encounter other multidemensional Beings co-creating Extraordinary ways of Relating.
5. GIVE 5 DIFFERENT ANSWERS WHEN PEOPLE ASK 'How are you?'
6. FOR THE NEXT WEEK take off your layers of niceness and be real/authentic.
Lee Lozowick said - 'We are weak not because we don't eat enough wheatgrass or soja. We are weak because we eat up our energy.' Being inauthentic, pretending nice, playing small are all very effective ways of eating up your energy. It takes enormous unconsious effort to hold up these fake images of 'You' and it blocks Your Being from coming alive.
Doing this is because of the unconscious use of your Survival Strategies so that if you are not dangerous, nobody will kill you. It works. Nobody feels threatened by you. But essentially you slowly kill yourself. For the next week, STOP THE SHOW. Take off your layers of niceness and reveal what is happening in you. Be visible. Become Authentic. Be Radically Honest about what you think and feel and find out who you become.
1. HANG OUT FOR 3 TO 6 MONTHS IN OLD DECISIONS that go deep into your body until you gain clarity. It takes time for a human being to let all the consequences of an old decision be fully present. The old decisions have been life determining and might still be rich in influence. Use your Self Observation to be neutral about the pain you are feeling from this. Let your Sadness speak, your Rage Speak, your Fear Speak and your Joy speak.
Allow the treasures to come out of your old painful decisions, and make new decisions.
Writing down your Process and sharing them with Your Teams is a way to share your Treasures. Whenever you went through a Door and speak about it, this helpes others to find the same Door for themselves.
2. ALLOW YOURSELF TO CRY FOR 3 DAYS Grieve the lack of Responsibility people take in order to protect life on earth. To that effect, Malidoma Patrice Somé speaks in the Forgotten Art Of Drowning - 'The modern wold is experiencing drout. There won't be no kind of moses or some kind of messiah to spead the water of cleansing. It will have to arise from the ground. It will have to come from the very people who have heard the call from the other world and who want to do something about it. And my sense is, we are it.'
We are it. And it is our capacity to grieve, that will allow others to also grieve. Put your Weapons On The Table and then, disarmed, feel your grieve. Let your heart speak. And let yourself be heared.
3. BEGIN TRACKING LITTLE WAYS YOU ARE AVOIDING RESPONSIBILITY How do you numb yourself? Keep an irresponsibility journal in which you write down using your Self Observation. Your Self Observation stays neutral! (Otherwise it would be judgemental = from your Gremlin) This alone will lower your Numbnessbar.
Be aware: You might be feeling things. Low levels and higher levels of Anger, Sadess Fear or Joy. This is okay, because it is an essential part of the process. You will feel your Feelings and Emotions consciously. Conscious Feelings are a main resource for taking Responsibility, because your Feelings are for Handling things, and your Emotions are for healing things.
4. START TAKING OWNERSHIP FOR THE WAYS YOU HAVE NOT TAKEN RESPONSIBILITY by making a list of all your (tiny, middle-size and big) messes. After each mess, declare your responsibility in this mess. Speak out clear and loudly what you takte ownership about. NOTE: This is not for you to be judged or critizied. It is you taking ownership: 'I have done ... said ... not said ... lied to you ... about ... although I knew that ... I wanted to be rejected ... I never told you that ... I actively withdrew from you ... I screw up on purpose ... I made myself bigger to hide my fear ... I ignored the fact that ... I decided to not tell you ... I decided to not allow myself ... I critizised my self for ... I am judgemental about myself for ... I decided to rather scream in anger than to feel my sadness and fear ... I ...'
Responsibility starts where you are. When you become Radically Honest about where you are, you finally are where you are. Only where you are you have Power to do something. From there you have leverage. Once you took ownership, you have power to change what you own.This is a great opportunity.
5. WRITE DOWN ALL THE JOBS YOU SEE THAT NEED TO BE DONE like picking up litter. When you see a job that needs to happen, then it’s your job to make sure it gets done. We live in a responsable Universe. This means, your response to what happens matters. It does make a difference, if the jobs you notice are handled. They are on your bench, because you are able to notice them. This does NOT mean you have to do the lonely wolf-thing = doing everything on your own.
1. BE THE BIG LIQUID YOURSELF When going through a strong Liquid State, try holding your fists together and yelling 'YAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH' to move the space you are in. Every culture creates it's own spaces with it's own set of rules and traditions. In modern culture spaces are created mostly unconsciously. Whenever you are in a Liquid State, you are at the Edge of your own cultural space. This is where you are able to create something new. You can create something outside of modern culture. You Cavitate Space.
2. ASK YOURSELFAm I doing this work (PM) because I want to, or because this is part of the program, the next Practice….? Am I being Adaptive to another Context, or am I doing PM for me? Your answer can only be from Experiential Reality, not an intellectual decision.
You notice that you are being Adaptive when you copy paste what you want and do to the conversation from other people. Do you have your own conversation? What is your own conversation? What are YOUR questions?
3. ASK YOURSELF THOROUGHLY Am I doing a PM practice because I love it, or for seeking approval? Looking for approval means giving someone else more Authority than you have. You can tell by Self Observation, or looking at the evidence:
Do you stay with your word even though people are turning away and disagree?
Do you use your Real Voice or do you adjust your tonage, speed, energy in speaking so that people don't kill you?
You are giving your Center away when depending on someone else’s opinion. Nobody can take your Center from you when you don't give your Center away. What is your true Practice?
1. WHICH PURPOSES ARE YOU SERVING when you are playing in multiple Gameworlds with multiple and different committments? Take your Authority back and decide which Gameworld you will play in. Look at the websites Nanonations and Gameworlds. Make a List with all the Gameworlds you participate in. All the small, middle and big ones. Your family, your work, your bank, any services you use. The companies you pay your bills to. The country you live in. Then consciously choose which Gameworlds YOU want to serve. Choosing is one of your 3 Powers: Declaring. Asking. Choosing. And you need all 3 Powers to Become Subversive to your existing Gameworlds and Cause Transformation for the Gameworlds that you want to see grow and thrive!
Your Questions. Your Declarations. Your Choices. Your Gameworlds.
2. ARE YOU OBEYING RULES OR INVENTING RULES? Practice following your own rule of law instead of your countries rule of law. Make your own reality and live in your own Nanonation. To start - find 2 People committed to a similar Purpose like yours = creating a Nanonation. Plan your first meeting before next Week to set the first foundations. On your first meeting, together read Nanonation, Gameworld Theory and Gameworldbuilder as a preparation for your Context Setting.
Deepen your Context with regular meetings and shared Liquid States.
You have access to Infinite Resources and multiple Possibilities. For example, exit the Patriarchy as a Team, piece by piece, layer by layer. Only you can start your Team. More Interestingly, no one can stop you from creating your Team.
4. BEING READY MEANS being okay with not being ready at all. You are never ready enough. There is always another edge, a risk, the Unknown and the Evolution of the Universe. Be a Spaceholder for a Possibility Team. See the Possibility Team website for Experiments. Create your PTeam and offer your Non-Material Value. Non-Material Value becomes more by giving it away. This is different from material stuff, which is about to run out on Planet Earth. Time to get ready creating Non-Material Value abundantly and in overflow. Time to Go Unreasonable.
5. ALL CHANGE STARTS WITH A NOTION Become a Revolutionary and move out of your comfort zone. This means, you Become Subversive to your own Boxtechnology (your Box equals your comfort zone). Cause the cracks in your Box yourself. Do things that are outside your own comfort zone. Use your Conscious Fear to guide your where to go, what to do and what to say. Where there is fear, there is aliveness. Could be way outside your comfort zone, or slightly outside to begin with. Let your revolutionary impules grow.
6. AMAZEMENT IS A SKILL. Stay amazed. Improvise in order to serve Gaia wherever she wants you to go and serve others.
7. SOME THINGS STAY UNNOTICED UNTIL YOU NOTICE THEM
8. AN EMOTION IS NOT A FEELING Get in touch with the differences between your Feelings and Emotions. Notice which one you are feeling in each moment.
Then practice to make great use of them. Emotions are for healing things. Feelings are for handling things. Two different purposes. Two totally different outcomes. Mixing them is like mixing cowshit with milk. It takes both their power and potential.
1. LOOK AT THE WEBSITEMUSEand do the set of recommended Experiments. Experiments help toBuild Matrixand new Possibilities. Honoring your Muse opens theDoorwayofConnectionbetween you, so that she will be in service for what you are in service for.
2. FOCUS ON STARTING A NEW BEHAVIOURand watch the old behavior disappear. All the years you have not been training your behaviours consciously, you unconsciously deepend the grooves of your unconcious behaviours. Now they are soooooooo tempting. Aha! You are tricked! Beware yourGremlin.
One possibility to change is to feel the pain of an old behaviour. When yourRage,SadnessandFearare big enough, you will change. Change for what? Pick your new behaviour already.Become Committedto paving a new road, walking a newPath, to be standing outside ofYour Box. Eventually, your old behaviour will disappear. You stopped feeding it. It stops catching you. YourChoice..!
3.KEEP AN IRRESPONSIBILITY JOURNALand pay attention to how you are trying to get away with stuff. What do you avoidNoticing? What do you avoid takingResponsibilityfor?
Write down all the tiny little bits and pieces as well as the big ones. You actually cannot avoid Responsibility by notChoosingabout something or by using the idea of'I did not notice'. Probably yourGremlinnoticed!
ItBuilds Matrixto bring into yourAttentionwhat you unconsciously try to avoid. This way, you regain access to the energy that you have given away to the unconscious and irresponsible realms of your Underworld. And if you don't master your Underworld, guess who masters you!?
4.PRACTICE ONE OR TWO EXPERIMENTS AT A TIME TOprevent overwhelm (Boxmechanism). To be caught in overwhelm is a Survival Strategy. In a modern culture, which blocksConscious Feelingsand amplifies giving yourCenteraway, being overwhelmed was probably your best choice to lower the tempo.
Consciously pace yourself byChoosingon or two experiments at a time according to what most interests you.
5. PRACTICE EXPERIMENTS AND MAKE CHANGESTake baby steps consistently over time for long term change. The Universe, as we encounter it now, wasn't made in a day. Also not in two days. And especially not in three days either...
6. DO EXPERIMENTS IN SPARK #135 TO ADRESS EGO STATES
Do you know that - getting all your energy sucked out of you because of a Trigger sentece? You have different Ego-States. Each Ego-State has a different Purpose. Depending which one is in the drivers-seat, you will get different results. And if you are being dragged down by one of your Ego-States, this is because you have built it so to happen. You have your Gremlin or Demon-Ego state just in place for being low on energy. This is Part of you Inner Structure. It is a Survival thing, because a Survival Strategy helps you to be weak, litte, empty of energy and therefore undangerous to other peoples' Boxes around you. Do the Experiments in Spark #135 to put Awareness into your Ego-States. After some weeks of research, ask someone to Hold Space for you to close the Café.
7.NOTICE THE VOICES IN YOUR HEAD THAT DRAG YOU DOWNAdditionaly to closing the Café, practice shooting those voices with yourVoice Blasterto get rid of them. Your Voice Blaster is one of your 13 Tools on your energetic Toolbelt and a crucial Element for you as a Possibilitator. You hear a voice. You shoot the voice!
You pull your Voice Blaster. Point it directly at the voice. Speak the voice out loud.. BAMMM!
8.TAKE THE SADNESS OF NOT GETTING NEEDS MET,put them in your hands, say goodbye to the pain and brush it off into the moving river of time. Let it drift back into the past as a memory. Pull out a Golden Pearl of your own wisdom, drop it over your head so it fills up the Space where the pain was occupied in the past.
1.PICK ONE STORY YOU HAVE ABOUT YOUR LIFE that is like a stake in the ground. Pick one that is in contratiction to what you think you actually want to Create. Be aware, that what you have is what you want. Until now, the story you have is the story you want. Otherwise, you would not have that story. Stop giving that story attention, or change your story to something that really matters to you now. You can use Is-Glue Dissolver to make the old story disappear and use Is-Glue to create the new story.
2. CONNECT WITH SOMEONE AND ALLOW SILENCE during the conversation. Enjoy Being in silent connection with them, even if they ask you questions. Be Present. Stay connected. Use your Skill of Being With what is. Nothing has to happen. And also nothing is supposed to not happen. Speak when it’s time and speak from an Extraordinary space. Do not speak when it's time for silence. Let the conversation emerge out of nothing.
3. WHEN YOU WALK AT THE SPEED OF MIND you are walking faster than the speed of Love. Practice walking with another at the speed of Love, which is sauntering. In the Speed of Love, you are walking while you Become Present every moment over again. Be in another’s Space without doing the blah blah blah thing. Notice how this feeds Your Being and your 5 Bodies.
4. A RECOMMENDED BOOK FROM Anne-Chloe: Walking On Water by Derrick Jensen. Find experiments in it that are edgy and different from PM Experiments. Do these Experiments in PM Teams.
5. NEXT TIME YOU ARE TOLD A VICTIM STORY do not rescue or buy into it. You will then be in Adult Ego State. In Adult Ego State you are connected with the other person and have access to the Bright Principle of Possibility.
From where you are, something completely different is possible than their story is pretending. Open up to 3 Doorways. If they do not take it, go somewhere else. Do not create stories about why they did not go through the Doorways. Do also not create stories about what they should have done.
NOTE: If this happens, you managed to be sucked into the story. One of your other Ego States took over. Gremlin? Parent? Child? Say 'Thank you! You just helped me finding a Doorway for Healing' and
1. When you start feeling needy, ask which part of me is feeling needy? It is something to create physical comfort? Emotional comfort? Intellectual comfort? Love entangled with needs gets messy which becomes ordinary unconscious love. Ask the questions: is it a need, is it a preference, or an expectation reacting to old fears?
2. Look at the website called Parts on parts.mystrikingly.com. Do the experiments to discover the parts you have and their needs. The better you can ID these parts and include them, the less likely they will show up in your victim neediness. “I have a need, I am responsible for getting those needs met.” The more you can name, identify, include, and take ownership of your parts, the less wildly they show up in your world demanding you meet these needs. You must do this before you can participate in Extraordinary Relationships.
3. Notice when you are walking at the speed of your mind, and when you are walking at the speed of love. Notice the feelings for each speed and the different responses from yourself and others. Notice your center, grounding cord, and any instructions you get from ECCO while in this space.
4. When you say “I love you”, notice which part of you is saying that. Does it come from neediness, or ordinary love?
5. If you see these 3 movies in a row: Contact, interstellar, and Adastra. you will notice they have this awesome framework/problem to explore potential, possibility and invent new stuff, and yet they all revolve around some issue with their mother or father/parents. This means you have not put these issues in the space behind you. It’s still about ordinary love, rather than Extraordinary Human Relationship. Go through the processes to heal and put this behind you so you can step into adulthood towards extraordinary human relationship. You don’t get one without the other. Neediness means you're not yet an adult. Enter adulthood with a small now, a conscious purpose, your feelings, and you can move forward. Your parents become your ancestors and can be resources rather than limitations. Make your parents heros by learning from them. Then you can leave all the issues with them behind.
6. Take back the authority of your life (see website on mystrikingly) when making decisions for yourself. Notice where your actions are coming from. Are you following tradition, doing what you are supposed to do, doing it for others or doing it because it is what you want?
7. Start your community in order to experiment, go to the edge, and for healing and transformation. Forget about the logistics and decide later what you want to create together. Put evolution at the center so that evolution can open the doors.
1. What are you going to create? Take a big risk this week and upgrade your necessity for what you need to learn about. What’s a step you can take towards this end? Take back your authority to refuse to accept how others diagnose you. Who are you when there is no conflict? when you don’t have to respond to a demand? Invent the next scene and respond by exploring who you are. Ask and answer the questions!
2. Create an ongoing possibility team which is an experimental space, where dangerous questions are asked and feedback is given. This can give you clarity and possibility (new perspectives) for your next step. Look at the website possibilityteam on my strikingly.
3. Transform incompetence into competence. Behave in new more effective ways, knowing you will also fail. Stay in the space when you fail. Be conscious about practicing your new competence which will create a new shape in you...until it’s not new anymore. This builds matrix
4.Practice creating new actions with your possibility team. New results come from new actions.
1. Listen to the National anthem of the Nanonation of Possibilica: “The keep going on Song.”
2. Going from unconscious to conscious: As soon as you get competence in a skill or area, take the next uncomfortable step to keep going.
3.Watch interview on dis-illusionment: see website with Clinton interviewing Naomi
4. New results only come from taking new actions: Change behavior patterns in your life in order to create new levels of relationship with yourself and others. Your daily actions come easily to you, often by unconscious reflex. New actions require consciousness along with will power, and then action. What do you really want? Break out of your own pigpen and try some unfamiliar, uncomfortable things.
5. Create new conceptsin your mind and take new actions once a day. A new conscious connection has to be made, and will power has to be involved.
6. Change your old decision about learning or anything else and make a new decision. Say this statement out loud on a daily basis. I am changing my mind and have decided that I like to learn (or anything else you want to make a new decision about).
1. Are you living your intention or being adaptive? Being adaptive could be in the form of giving your authority away to concepts, rules , social patterns, beliefs, old comments from a teacher, or trying to adapt into others expectations: Experiment: lay down in a quiet place and close your eyes. Avoid outer thoughts. Assume that this is what you get to explore as your life. See what other dimensions inside yourself come up. Put your intention on your intention to see what your purpose is. You can discover faculties of awareness and discovery that you didn’t know were there in the past. In this dark quiet space you avoid all the outer low drama suffering and painful events that sucks energy. Don’t move until it is an authentic move and you are sure of it.
2. Must go through a liquid state for change to occur: When you find yourself in a liquid state in one or more of your bodies, notice what is happening in those bodies. Align with your liquid state as it is, no story attached. Notice if change has occurred. Change doesn’t happen without an intention, and a way to use the change in a transformational way.
3. “As Ising” Sit there with nothing going on. Whatever liquid state you are in, notice it, be with it, and you will come out the other side. When you can be with what the low drama thing is, the low drama charge goes away. There are no stories. “This too shall pass” Being in a liquid state does not mean you will come out of it and transform. There has to be an intentionality going through it and coming out of it. Question to ask: is it a real liquid state or reactivity.
4. For Edge-workers who feel exhaustion and need integration: Spend 3 days and nights in bed. No reading, writing, watching, listening…..just lay there and sleep/rest. This will allow integration and cure your exhaustion. Join a support team with 2 others for support while integration happens.
1. Start holding emotional healing processes (EHP’s). You will learn just as much about yourself as your clients learn about themselves. Hold about 50 free EHP’s. After that start charging about 100 Euros for each space you hold. After doing another 100 or more processes, you can then charge $150 to $200 Euros.
2. Look at your relationship patterns: With sexual partners there is a fight and fuck Pattern. It’s a pattern without changing or upgrading the love you have for each other. It keeps the gremlin feeding unconsciously. With friends one can fight and then get mushy and make up. This is the same pattern. The only solution is to let it crash, go cold turkey. Pick one relationship and go cold turkey so something else can be created. Check out the info on my strikingly called Poop on the Table. Every piece of poop is a doorway to a new opportunity.
3. Authenticity…..Speak from the unknown: Don’t rehearse what you will say. Do Not say something for the sake of talking. Have no idea what you will say. Wait until the unknown pops up in your mind without analyzing it, and then take the risk to speak it.
1. Become more aware and authentic about your inauthenticities: Notice where you are being inauthentic, own it and speak about it to others. Use self observation to discover what is authentic. Step outside yourself and observe your speech and behaviors. Notice what feels authentic and what does not by lowering your numbness bar. Notice the physical sensations you have when you are inauthentic. Look at Parts on my strikingly so you can see who is showing up in your conversations.
2. Notice what drives your conversations and actions: Which I is talking (ie, mom, dad, school, culture? child, parent, gremlin?). Ask yourself what you need right now in order to speak with authenticity. How can I be naked/exposed without a plan. Ask, why am I afraid?
1. Practice consciously feeding your gremlin: When you have emotional activity, when trying to be right, justify, or wanting to get revenge, these are all ways your gremlin avoids responsibility. When you get conscious about what your gremlin is up to, feed it something on purpose so it doesn’t need to stay in the underworld; give it a job that your box can’t do, make interesting offers to interesting people, hold different kinds of spaces, let your gremlin choose from a menu normally not given to you that feed your gremlin in a conscious manner. Conscious gremlin keeps you at the edge of your box
2. Make a list of 50 of your gremlin’s foods: Read gremlinmystrikingly.com
3. Become courageous and engage in inter-relatedness (ie living together with others). It can be messy, and also alive. The feedback you are getting from others will tell you what you are creating in the world.This is the benefit of living with others…..you get immediate feedback, which makes life less safe and more dangerous. The way you can know if you have changed is when you are getting different feedback from others.
4. Become the source of ecstasy by calling something perfect
5. Visit people in person who are participating on this zoom call: Going on adventures together can be catalytic ,causing stuff to be exchanged, and offering more possibilities.
6. Being “good” is not necessarily being responsible. It is easy to have this confusion. It is possible to suffer decades of inauthenticity by being “good”. If I am not being good or bad, for or against, it’s about being who I am, and who you want to become with growth opportunities. It is full of psychological, physical and sexual abuse to stay in a relationship where you play good. It is not easy to become an authentic person instead of a “good person”.
1. Teach another person how to talk to you in your language. (how can they better communicate with you), once a day for a whole week. Then let the other person teach you how to talk and listen to them in their language. Practice communicating in each others languages.
2. Keep your attention on unconscious voices that have found their way into your heart (unconscious drivers). If they are old memorized voices and do not benefit you, shoot them and create new voices to memorize that propel you forward with conscious attention.
3. Check out the website called become present on mystrikingly. Do some of the experiments on this site. Relationship is about “Being together”. it must have our attention and our presence for relationship to blossom and grow.
4. Where your attention goes your energy flows. You can do this consciously or unconsciously. Look at the shadow parts of yourself to keep your attention on your attention and stay awake. Place your attention consciously.
5. How to practice keeping your attention on your attention: take your possibility stone and rub it between your fingers. Notice the heat, what does the stone feel like. Keep your attention on the stone for a couple of minutes each day. You can learn to move your attention from one place to another. Practice this.
6. Get rid of things you don’t need. Each thing you own, owns you by taking energy away from you.
7. Split your attention and keep your attention in both arenas.
1.How does your belief system affect your connections/relationships? Any belief system has a bullshit factor. Ask yourself and your possibility team to detect your beliefs and the bullshit involved with your beliefs. Write them down and question your beliefs. How do they serve you, especially in your relationships.
2. Take apart your beliefs before your beliefs destroy your relationships. Gremlins love this battle of I’m right your are wrong, which destroy relationships and limit possibilities.
3. Discover the part of yourself that is consciously human rather than animal: sit cross legged stretch your hands out sideways, palms facing outward with fingers pointed up towards the sky. Stay in this position for 20 minutes. The animal screams at you that this hurts and I am going to die. The animal tells you to put your arms down. The 2nd time you do this it will become clearer why this is important. Developing discipline lets you differentiate between your animal body and conscious body. This builds matrix.
4. Extraordinary relationship depends on you staying unhookable: The instant you get hooked you are stuck in ordinary human relationship. Practice knowing when you are hooked. Take responsibility by saying “I am hooked” and then what hooked you. Write it down., and do an emotional healing process. This will shift your hookability by shifting your box. Look at the reactivity site on my strikingly. Learn to Open a space rather than shutting down the space by getting hooked.
5. There are 25 ways to stay unhookable explained in RJBL. Practice this one: place 100% of your attention on noticing what is, as it is, in the moment, right now.
1. Extraordinary relationship depends on staying un-hookable: The instant you get hooked you are stuck in ordinary human relationship. Practice knowing when you are hooked. Take responsibility by saying “I am hooked” and say what hooked you. Write it down., and do an emotional healing process. This will shift your hook-ability by shifting your box. Look at https://reactivity.mystrikingly.com Learn to open a space rather than shutting down the space by getting hooked.
2. There are 25 ways to stay un-hookable explained in RJBL. Practice this one: place 100% of your attention on noticing what is, as it is, in the moment, right now.
3. Tell people what you are sad about. Especially if you have not spoken about your sadness with them before.
1.Construct a new identity for yourself. Let go of staying in survival strategy and name what you are: Committing to radical responsibility, staying centered, letting your bright principles shine through…. Call it what you are, so you can find your X on the map. Are you a rift-walker, sorceress, edge-worker, new refugee, a possibilitator? If you did not give your authority away to survive, who would you be? Who do you become if you are no longer conforming?
2. Check out the site email@example.com
3. Pay attention when you feel tension. Make it OK and see what possibilities it offers you.
4. What do you want to create, ordinary or extraordinary spaces? What would it take to refuse to leave extraordinary spaces? Possibilities: take radical responsibility, refuse to stay numb, have the courage to address the issue in the space, reveal yourself, say something non-linear, try something new.
5. Notice the qualities of different spaces. Walk into an establishment, sit down and notice the qualities of the presiding space. What is the resonance of the space? Notice how people take on the deity of the space.
6. Do “Post Office” experiments this week. Ask the person behind you if you can scan their five bodies. Ask a non-linear question, start an extraordinary conversation.
7. Change the space from ordinary to extraordinary: Lean into the energetic wall of the space and bring people with you to change it. What happens, and what is possible in each moment of a relationship or space, does not happen by accident. The quality of the space is the determining factor of what is possible. Every space is connected to every other space, by going through the gap between spaces. You must have the willingness to go to a space of nothingness, then go on a discovery journey by popping into another space….a dangerous question? a statement? and take people with you. Put your attention/intention on the wall, to move through it.
1. Allow your hidden purposes to be conscious and seen. First step is to notice what your purpose is for communications or actions.
2. You can stay relational in ordinary conversations without giving up your authority or your context. No need to contradict ordinary conversations, put up walls or feel superior. Do the experiments, gain the skills and create the extraordinary.
3. Know and upgrade your Nits. Practice de-constructing your nits so your box will not crystallize you inside your box. Nit picking eats away at relationships, and is part of your box. This part of your box keeps you from getting close to others. Traveling to other countries will activate your nits. They will freak out. It’s a good way to practice being flexible with your nits.
4. Look at the list of 100 possible nits in RJBL.
5. Practice living/working with others. This allows you to become conscious/aware about your nits. Negotiate how to handle each nit which will build matrix.
6. Take responsibility for your nits…. raise your awareness so low drama gremlin does not happen.
7. Negotiate new kinds of intimacy by looking at your nit reactivity. Keep putting your nits on the table. How much of your aloneness/separateness is built around not having to be adaptive or confrontational because you never had the power of negotiating your nits. How much of your life is built out of shrinking back because you are a woman and you have no power to initiate the masculine power. What can change, what is possible. What is your strategy….being adaptive or blaming others? How much of your life is built out of unconscious nit reactivity. How much ecstacy/intimacy can you create in a space? This is high level fun.
8. Start a possibility team this week. Ask them how to negotiate your nits in a way that encourages connection.
1. Keep a beep book and write down the parts of yourself that you discover. Check out parts.mystrikingly.com. Make descriptive names for each part. If you are surprised that you feel crazy or alone or?, a part of yourself might be taking over knocking you unconscious, allowing that part to take control.
2. Practice giving your gremlin conscious high drama food. Your gremlin needs food, and is going to be active. If you don’t give it conscious high drama food it will go wild feeding on unconscious low drama food. Your choice
3. Investigate why you are making assumptions. Each time you make an assumption, see what you are feeling and why you are making that assumption. Ask questions about your assumptions.
4. Discover your true purpose. Ignoring your true purpose,throws you into a stress cycle of trying to look good. When 2 people do this cycle with each other it creates ordinary human relationship..
5. Start using stress as an irresponsibility detector. Stress is full of useful information. This means you are not taking care of yourself in some way. Try to look good, behave in a way that is out of alignment with yourself, be stressed out.
6. Creatively change your circumstances to alleviate stress. Must look back and see where you are not taking responsibility, and start there. Use a 3cell or PM team to support you with possibilities. Be pro-active. Increase the sensitivity of your stress detector.
7. How does one create ecstasy. Give your gremlin the task of keeping your to do list. Then you don’t have to be pre-occupied with it and can have high level fun with collaborative co-creation.
8. What causes stress in your life? Have someone ask you this question over and over.
9. Take several naps a day.
Building Love That Lasts Study Group Week #52
Somehow we lost or did not record week #52 of the Study Group...
1. Watch spaceship two to see a nanonation get created.
2. Practice taking responsibility for the context of your conversations. Be conscious about who is navigating and holding space for each conversation you are having
3. Have a meta conversation: This is a conversation within the conversation. Talk together about how the conversation is going. To remain conscious, must have a context in the conversation. If you know what comes next, you are being adaptive. Must ask what is happening now in the conversation and what is possible. Something completely different is possible right now without knowing what is in another space that has a different possibility. Go there and see what happens.
4. Scan the energy in each conversational space you enter: Ask what is happening in the conversation, and scan for what else is possible. Go into new territory in a non-linear way.
5. Gain new distinctions to build matrix, opening doors and new spaces you haven’t been before.
6. Make the declaration that something else is always possible, and at anytime you can leave that space. People can decide if they want to go with you or not. Avoid arguing, triggers, or keeping the peace by going along with the conversation from people who don’t want more clarity or possibilities.
7. Investigate who is sourcing the conversation you are having. Is it Gremlin, child, adult?
8. Create extraordinary conversations. Make a wand of declaration and Implement new conversation starters to create extraordinary conversations.
9. Practice using a meta-conversation starters once a day. Change the purpose/context of the original conversation to one with more doors to walk through. Examples of meta-conversation starters are: a.Why is this thing we are talking about so important to you? b.Twice now you have failed to answer this question, what’s going on with you about this? c.My box is freaking out about what you just did or said. Did you notice that too? I must have an expectation or belief about this, can you help me track it down? d.I notice an undertone of some feelings in your voice, can you say more about that? e.Tell me about your fear f.I have been thinking about nits that people have. How do you deal with nits you have with your partner of 40 years? g.Perhaps you don’t realize that I agree with you. I’m on your side….now what can we do about this or what else is possible? (even if you don’t entirely agree),
h.Tell me something that would help me understand you better.
Now you have opened a door to change the conversation. Some people will refuse to go through the door.
1. Ian McKenzie film maker; interviewed women asking questions about men. How does this land with you? It is posted on Next culture Radio if you are interested in answering this question.
2. Practice rubbing a possibility stone (or your fingers) when wanting to transport yourself into the small now.
3. Practice staying present during high intensity conversations: Pick 3 people you’re having tension with, let them know about this tension that you are feeling so you can have an adult conversation about it. Say you want to listen to them. Make a grounding cord in the space and allow the extra energy to go down the cord so you can focus on what they are saying. let the energy go down the cord and practice listening to what they are saying. Do not justify, defend yourself, or try to be right. Thank them for telling their story, and say I didn’t know that. Notice how the energy has shifted in your body.
4. For the next 2 weeks, Notice love happening in each space you are in. Regardless of the topic of conversation, or who is speaking, sink out of your mind, into your body and focus on the love happening. The indicator of love happening is feeling it in your nervous system. Split your attention if the negativity is coming in your direction, and then you can be fed by it. This creates space between the two of you. Where your attention goes, energy flows….create the joy of love.
5. Complete communications, even when disagreements are present so that love can happen. We are really good at defending ourselves thus not allowing love to happen. Blocking love happening and not completing conversations equals ordinary human relationships. For extraordinary love to occur, must practice communicating feelings.
6. Practice communicating your feelings by saying: I feel mad, glad, sad or scared because (say what is bothering you). You can also add what I would like is (say what you want to change, & accept it if you do not get what you want. Accept that you cannot control anyone but yourself and your actions)
7. Stop creating roadblocks and offer completion loops instead so they feel heard. Examples ofroadblocks are: giving an order, demand, threat, advice or solutions, lectures, Judgements, morals, praise, shame, interpretations, reassurances, interrogations, withdrawing or distracting. Roadblocks are ways your box stays the same, avoids taking responsibility, andavoids deepening the relationship. If you block the message, then you don’t have to take responsibility for dealing with the emotions of the other person, or shifting the relationship.
1. Use completion loops so the other person feels heard. You can also use them when you disagree, or are unsure your communication got through. If differences come up, Accept them and decide if you want to continue the conversation. If someone is arguing with you, or you are making offers that they are refusing, use a completion loop and decide if you want to continue to be in the conversation. Check out the communication map on my strikingly. IE: you never take me to the beach Communication Loop possibility: Are you wanting to argue with me now? Really take responsibility for understanding what they are saying, rather than your own agenda, and then decide if you want to remain in the conversation.
2a. Have a conversation about what is really going on rather than being adaptive with people. This is usually about feelings. IE Mom, I am afraid you will feel rejected and sad if I do not want to accept your invitation for lunch, rather than saying yes when you really do not want to go.
2b. Adapt to nothing and withhold nothing For 6 months. Do this with responsible adults, rather than your children or the law. Look at the map of problem ownership first.
1. VALUING YOUR VALUE EXPERIMENT: How can we be around people in our daily lives so we can exchange ideas and value our value together? This is an intimate conversation.
a. Ask yourself what is your value, then write it down. Reclaim your value so you can bring it into the next culture. Is your value as someone who trains doula’s, starts a writing house, works with kids….
b. Explore how you value other people’s value. write down the ways in your daily life you can be around people and be part of supporting their value. Write down all the ways you attempted to do this, include what worked and what did not.
2. LOWER YOUR NUMBNESS BAR SO YOU CAN NOTICE YOUR FEELINGS SOONER. One must be conscious about their feelings in order to take care of their needs around others. When one implodes or explodes with anger, they usually have a high level of unconscious anger. It’s often because they waited too long to set a boundary. Not trusting another person is about not trusting yourself around that person.
3. USE YOUR SWORD OF CLARITY TO CREATE BOUNDARIES AND NEGOTIATIONS. Now that you are more conscious about your feelings you can say YES, NO, STOP, GO, I WANT THIS, I DON’T WANT THAT. One only needs 3 to 5% anger to create negotiations and boundaries in a more relational manner. When one explodes or implodes, it’s usually unconscious anger festering inside because they waited too long to speak up for what they want.
4. WRITE DOWN WHO YOU ARE ANGRY WITH AND WHY.Include any boundaries, negotiations, or distinctions that need to be spoken about. Pick one, and in this next week speak with clarity about your needs to that person.
1. BECOME A BAD ASS BABE OR A BAD ASS BLOKE. Participate with a team of people and practice destroying the good girl/boy box. Beware, change will happen!
2. LEARN AND PRACTICE MAKING PROPOSALS AND OFFERS TO OTHERS.One proposal does not meet everyones needs. Continue proposing something new until it works for that person. Proposals need to take a person to their edge where fear is present. If the proposal does not include fear, then it does not use energy for evolution.
3. INVITE PEOPLE OVER FOR LUNCH. Both of you go into a place where you don’t know who you are. Then have a dynamic conversation about it, and see what you can create together.
4. MAKING DISTINCTIONS WILL ALLOW YOU TO HAVE CLARITY. When you have the internal clarity that a feeling is an emotion, you choose to transform the emotion and move on.
5. EXAMINE THE BOUNDARIES YOUR BOX HAS. Using clarity produces different results than setting boundaries. Make distinctions instead of boundaries. A boundary blocks energy flow, A distinction specifies limitations and still allows energy to flow. A boundary is a wall, a distinction allows air to flow between you and continue the conversation.
6. NOTICE WHAT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE HAVE BOUNDARIES WITH YOU INSTEAD OF DISTINCTIONS. Write the boundaries in your beep book. Ask them to give you feedback about why they are holding these boundaries. This can unblock the energy between you. Negotiations and clarity create energy flow between you, and can take the place of boundaries. Once the clarity is there, new possibilities can open up.
7. BOOK: HOLD ONTO YOUR KIDSby Gordon Neudfeld, about attachment parenting This is important information so that kids learn from their parents rather than social media.
8. CONSIDER DOING A GRIEF EMOTIONAL HEALING PROCESSf FOR REMORSE by asking these questions: What happened? What else could I have created?
1. SPEND TIME WITH OTHERS WHILE GIVING THEM YOUR FULL ATTENTION IN ALL 5 BODIES.Connect being to being by appreciating the other persons being without trying to change them.
2. PRACTICE HOLDING SPACE FOR EMOTIONAL HEARLING PROCESSES. This requires you to open and support doors with thought-maps and distinctions. If you have given them 3 doors of possibility, and they choose not to go through, it is time to stop the session.
1. SHIFT INTO BEING SOMETHING DIFFERENT. Learn how to “crash”, fall, fail, get difficult feedback, or “hit a wall” well in order to learn a new skill and evolve.
2. FIND OUT WHAT THE UNCONSCIOUS PAYOFF IS when you have unconscious box to box conflicts. Then write this in your beepbook.
3. CHOOSE TO CHANGE YOUR MIND ABOUT WHAT OFFENDS YOU. Next time you feel offended ask yourself what is this thing that I am offended about. Write this in your beep book.
4. PRACTICE BEING AUTHENTIC WITH OTHERS by not walking on eggshells or taking care of their feelings. Do not be adaptive or protect others from feeling.
5. BECOME MORE CONSCIOUS AND PRESENT BY GETTING TO KNOW, AND TAKING OWNERSHIP OF YOUR VOICES (parent, gremlin, child). Decontaminate these voices with a team. Start by doing Gremlin work. Vera is working with others to get to know and train your gremlin.
6. BEHAVE IN A WAY THAT IS OUTSIDE YOUR BOX, SOMETHING YOU WOULD NEVER DO OR SAY. How long can you stay in unknown and unpredicted behavior? Explore this behavior like it is new territory. Stay mysterious and vulnerable, even to yourself. Keep in contact with those you are talking to and let the words come in the moment. Roll with it. Read a book about this magic by Robert Wolf called
7. STUDY THE SITE: http://splityourattention.mystrikingly.com Do all the Split Your Attention Experiments you can from this website. Now, Split your Attention to discover what in truth actually stops you from doing any of the Experiments, or any more of the Experiments, or specifically what stops you from doing the next Split Your Attention Experiment. Do the Emotional Healing Process (EHP) about what is stopping you from Experimenting any further with Splitting Your Attention.
CAUTION: YOU ARE ABOUT TO BEGIN EXPLORING THE EXTRAORDINARY DOMAINS OF RELATING. THINKING THAT YOU CAN SKIP THE FIRST 70 SESSIONS OF THIS STUDY GROUP AND LEAP INTO NAVIGATING EXTRAORDINARY SPACES OF INTIMACY IS LIKE ASSUMING YOU CAN CONDUCT AN ORCHESTRA BY WAVING A STICK AROUND IN FRONT OF A GROUP OF MUSICIANS. THEY HAVE STRAIGHT JACKETS FOR PEOPLE LIKE THAT.
AS IT IS WRITTEN ON JIM MORRISON'S GRAVESTONE AT PERE LACHAISE CEMETARY IN PARIS: "Know your demons." (ΚΑΤΑ ΤΟΝ ΔΑΙΜΟΝΑ ΕΑΥΤΟΥ: 'against the demon within thyself')
ACTUALLY, ARISTOTLE WAS WRONG WHEN HE SUGGESTED THAT IT WAS USEFUL TO "Know yourself." HE SHOULD HAVE SAID: "Know yourselves."
YOU HAVE AN ENTIRE ZOO OF PARTS IN THERE TO MANAGE BEFORE YOU CAN ELEGANTLY CREATE AND NAVIGATE EXTRAORDINARY AND ARCHETYPAL DOMAINS. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED. GOOD LUCK.
1. LOOK AT THESE WEBSITES;http://eyeoftheneedle.mystrikingly.comandhttp://baggage.mystrikingly.com Identify the baggage you are carrying with your 3 cell team. Walk through your house/apt. And ask each object; are you giving me energy or taking away energy? Baggage blocks us from experiencing extraordinary communications because baggage occupies our energy preventing us from being alive.
2. NOTICE YOUR INTERNAL VOICES THAT CAUSE PRESSURE (PAREN, CHILD, GREMLIN EGO STATES) I am not good enough, I have to…..I should….Use a beep book to log all these conversations. Then ask, do you have anything else for me? Once they are heard, you can more easily let them go. Discover where you’re X is on the path.
3. DROP THE PRACTICES YOU ARE DOING FOR SOMEONE ELSE For every decision ask yourself, what do I want?If you get an energetic beep, change it. Do this over and over again until you become less adaptive. Change, I should, to I want.
4. ARE THINGS/RELATIONSHIPS IN YOUR LIFE GIVING YOU ENERGY OR TAKING IT AWAY? Ask these questions over and over again for every item and relationship in your life.
5. WATCH THE FILM Pleasantville AND NOTICE HOW THE PEOPLE IN THE TOWN RELATE WITH EACH OTHER (Very Ordinary). Interact in ways you have never interacted before (using non-linear imagination to make your offers). This way you avoid getting into a rut in your relationships.
NOTE: We are discovering that unless you are thrilled about actually doing the Experiments explained in these Study Groups - not simply thinking about doing them, but actually making mistakes, looking crazy, not knowing who you are or what you are doing while you are trying these experiments... unless you actually do the Experiments, nothing much will change for you. Understanding is necessary but insufficient to roll down the Yellow Brick Road. We encourage each of you to encourage the others to encourage you to become an Experimenter and to do the Experiments discovered here! They are fabulous Doorways to High Level Fun!
BE FULLY AT HOME EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE Experience the deep holy grounded wonderfulness of being Home. A couple times each week, let the 'home' experience flood in and completely overwhelm you for a few moments. Lay down on the floor sometimes, or better, in someone's arms, and let yourself sob uncontrollably from depth of your heart and the bottom of your belly with wonder and amazement of being truly Home here on Earth.
ESCAPE THE PRISON-WORLD OF REASONS Use Noticing and especially Self Observation to discover your deep fears about making decisions and actions unless they are thoroughly justified with 'really good' logical and socially-acceptable Reasons. Decide if your life belongs to you, or to your mind. Take your life back from your mind. Relocate your Point Of Origin from your Mind (the Center of your Intellectual Body) to the Center of your Being. If you do not wrestle your life away from your mind, then the only thing someone else gets to relate to is your Intellect, your understanding. This would be unrewarding for their Being, and also deeply unsatisfying for your Being. Find this unspoken dissatisfaction in your Being. Let the experience grow until your longing is bigger than your fear and you are willing to try Relating and interacting in the Domains that are beyond the grasp of Reasons.
EXPLORE GAPS WHEN THEY ARISE Notice that there are sometimes Gaps in the script that you are using while interacting with someone across from you. They are not saying anything, and there is nothing obvious in that moment for you to say. Most times this is terrifying. In fact, many people invent and memorize 'topics' or 'themes' to speak about to fill the silence. Are you one of those people? This Experiment is to discover and unfold your hidden Potentials through fully entering those Gaps. In the Gap Void you can Discover what unencumbered uninhibited Being-to-Being connection provides for you. Learn to trust yourself and to trust the other person (or persons) is those Gaps. Let the Gaps thrive as Nonlinear Doorways through which vast valuable Resources can enter the Space. Notice your previous tendencies to avoid feeling your Unconscious Fears in those Gaps. Write down in your Beep! Book clear step-by-step descriptions of your various automatically-triggered Gap-filling or Gap-destroying or Gap-denying techniques that you have been using. Each technique you describe is a Door that you shut over a treasure-trove of intimacy Spaces not available for you until you choose to follow the fears back to their source and do the several layers of the related Emotional Healing Processes (EHP). This Experiment is to clearly detect your Box's and Gremlin's Gap-skipping Techniques, your desperate need to use them, and some possibilities of trying something else instead that brings you more aliveness. Practice setting your Techniques aside and entering fully into the Gaps so that external Resources can enter your Space of Relating in surprising and delightfully fruitful ways. Along the way, do not be surprised that it might have been a mistake of perspective to think of Gaps as small. The world of Gaps may be far vaster than the solid little island worlds. It is possible that by doing this experiment you may start preferring to inhabit the world of Gaps more than the known world.
CAVITATE NEW CULTURE SPACE This Experiment is to wake up each morning and exit your Dream World by Cavitating and Inhabiting New Culture Space. Over and over again, practice to consciously Cavitate New Culture Space. First get Centered, Grounded, Bubbled, and Clear (Sword out!) about the Context, Purpose, and Traditions of the Space you will Cavitate. Clapping your hands hard together is a large-scale Clicker that shakes up your physical world with a sharp pain so that your energetic world goes liquid enough that the new space can Cavitate. Create and inhabit your new culture Space with a Context and Traditions you would love to live in. Learn the ecstasies of living in a Parallel Culture with a conscious Purpose of your own making. Use Culture To Culture communication to relate with others intimately and Authentically rather than being an Adaptive Chameleon pretending to be the same as them while hiding your uniqueness. That time of your life is over!
1. 'THERE ARE NO STRANGERS' EXPERIMENT Walk through your day and feel the Connection you have with everyone you encounter. Talk to them as if you are not stranger’s. Notice you are not alone, instead you are connected with everyone, regardless of your differences. With Your Being you feel their Being.
Why would you avoid connecting this way? Choose to relate to people like that from now on.
2. THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN OFFERING A POSSIBILITY AND BEING RIGHTChoose to Focus 100% of Your Attention on yourself when thinking about, talking to, or seeing another person. Notice what is going on in your 5 Bodies, especially your Feelings and Thoughts. What do you think and speak if 100% of Your Attention is on your own Thoughts and Feelings? Do you try to prove them right? Do you defend them?
THIS is not made with the mind. Especially not with a mind that wants to solve anything by 'Being Right'. Solving is Problem fixing. And Problem fixing for example is wanting to change the other person, because then THEY are your Problem (...until you convinced them enough).
How about you shift Context into the Context of Possibility, with a neutral set of conditions to play with? There are Possibilites to be discovered and offered by YOU, to Go Nonlinear. Leave your mind, go into your heart, and relax into that Space. Start to speak your heart to the person.
3. MAKE ZERO ASSUMPTIONS THIS WHOLE NEXT WEEKStart by Noticing the Assumptions you have about other people, e.g. the way they dress, act, speak. Notice how your Assumptions solidify your views of that person and how that limits the Possibilities of Connection. Essentially Assumptions are a Survival Strategy of your Box to stay safe and in the known, your Box'es favorite Territory. What is possible if you encounter people in an Assumption-free space? Take back the Assumptions you have. Now notice what it’s like to be with people and have no Assumptions at all.
4. PICK ONE OF YOUR BRIGHT PRINCIPLES AND EACH DAY WAKE UP SAYING 'I am .. (say your Bright Principle i.e. Transformation, Love, Clarity…..)' . Your Bright Principles are each one a multifaceted Stream of Energy, Clarity, Possibility and Committment as a Doorway for Your Being to come through. And they are bigger than your Box. They make something completely else possible to you than your Box is capable of. And you are NOT your Box.
You are a multidemensional Being with opportunities. One of your opportunities is open the valve for your Bright Principles to come though.
Every morning when you wake up, pick one saying 'I am ... (Bright Principle)' and notice how you can embody and become it.
1. RELATE 90% TO PEOPLES POTENTIAL AND WHAT IS POSSIBLE. Make Offers, Proposals and create Possibilities.Focus on other dimensions of what is possible in the Space when wanting extraordinary connections. Use your Inner Resources For Connection with engagement to call forth this Potential. Stick to it! They could invite you to rescue them, and you continue to Hold Space for the Potential. Relate to them with your Extraordinary and Archetypal Offers. You are offering potential Adventures. You open the Door and they Choose if they will go through it or not.
4. TAKE RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE CULTURE YOU ARE LIVING Cultural Space is created in everymoment by everybody, either consciously or unconsciously. Whatever culture you are not creating consciously, guess who is creating instead? Which 'I' creates your culture?
6. MAKE THE SPACE A LITTLE WIDER TO ALLOW IN SYNCRONICITY. Use Your Attention. You have two types of Attention, Point Attention and Field Attention. With Your Attention you Hold Space. If the Space is held too tight, or too controlled, Syncronicity cannot get in. You cannot force it.
Use your Field Attention to make Space / Room for Syncronizity to bring in it’s gifts, then notice it. Roll and Navigate Space of Syncronicity by saying yes, and….. ...keep Noticing what is possible.
7. FEED YOUR HEART AND SOUL. In your Beep! Book, write from your heart ways you are feeding your heart, and then ways you are feeding your soul. Ask yourself - In what ways am I starving my heart and in what ways am I starving my soul? Get out of the Scarcity/ Survival Mode! NOTE: One way to starve yourself is to mix up the foods. This is because you might have a Survival Strategy going on confusing yourself about feeding yourself - with the purpose of weakening yourself. Like this, you are no danger to no other peoples Boxes. If this is your case, use your Clarity to sort this out!
Then abundantly nurture your heart and soul. Who could I be with a well fed heart and soul?? Soul feeding can be listening to music, exploring an old cave, looking at a great painting…...). Heart feeding can be connecting to someone you love, writing a poem for gaia ......)
Both are Doorways for Possibility and Healing. When someone calls out a Non-Material Value in you that Your Box doesn't allow, you have found an excellent Doorway for an Emotional Healing Process. Write the Emotion / Energetic Block that is in the way down in your Beep! Book so you can access it again. If your Box is already open to what others see in you - ask them for a next step. This is already them delivering Non-Material Value to you. It is Possibility at your service!
1.ONCE A DAY CONSCIOUSLY DO SOMETHING WHERE YOU LOOK BAD. Find the Gap between looking good and looking bad, then go through it. Let yourself be known by revealing your incompetence. This way people can see more of who you are. And with them seeing you in your incompetence, you invite them to be with you at the place where you do not know......and they do not know......in Nothingness......this is where the Magic happens!
2. BE CONSCIOUS ABOUT WHEN YOU ARE BORED.Being bored means you have your back to a Door. Turn around, see the Door and go through it! Often the boredom comes from unconscious Anger. Probably you want to change something. If so...this is your Door!
3. EXPLORE THE EXPERIMENTS THAT WORK AND THOSE THAT DO NOT WORK. An Experiment that did not work, is an Experiment that worked! This is because you now know what to not do anymore. If something does not work, it is simply a Beep! This is a sign for a Possibility of change. The Beep! invokes your Shift-Possibility. Can Can you Shift? How? Your Experiments that work, well... they worked. Great, share them! Write them down so they can go on one of the 500+ Websites. Please send them to Anne-Chloé Destremeau or Clinton Callahan.
4. DO NOT COMPLAIN TO ANYONE NO MATTER WHAT IS HAPPENING.(Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #1) Make zero derogatory comments or facial expressions. Instead of complaining create a new Possibility by making a bold, fierce, specific Proposal. One way to do this is to Notice your first thought, drop it, notice the 2nd thought, and see what is under that. Do this until you find a thought that has Power in it.
5. CELEBRATE YOUR PRESENCE IN THE NOW. (Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships#2) Navigate the Space to find Joy,whether you feel Fear, Sadness, or Anger, and be radiantly happy. Do not squelch it down. Being alive in itself is an extremely joyful experience once you allow yourself to have it.....over and over again!
6. GRAB SOMETHING THAT YOU LOVE AND STRAP IT ONTO YOUR BODYfor No Reason, and just be happy about it. Having what you Love just nearby you Bodies creates a sparkle and mist of this appreciation around you. You appreciate! Find your way home to the Intimacy of awareness and let your Joy shine out loud.
8. CHOOSE WHAT IS, OR WHAT YOU ARE SERVED, ANDSEE IT AS AN OPPORTUNITY.(Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #3) If the waiter brings you the wrong meal, say thank you rather than complain about it. Look at the opportunities to try something new. Keep Choosing what is and stay in the flow, including opportunities for Relating. This applies to finding the opportunities in everyday life.
1. REALITY ARRIVES WITH ZERO STORIES ATTACHED.Each story has a purpose. We create stories about our lives that can create the urgency and pressures of life: RRRR Radical Research into Raw Reality. Write down every single source of the pressure that creates a story. Then Write the entire story that causes the pressure. Write down the stories you are using to shape the reality that you are living. Do not judge yourself, or create victim mentality.
Once you make the stories conscious they loose their power.
3. “WHAT AM I HERE FOR?” MUST BE ANSWERED BEFORE YOU CAN FIND EXTRAORDINARY RELATIONSHIP. What is my non-material value? What am I holding space for? The answers to these questions are what you have to offer a partner.
4. WOMEN, OPEN THE DOORS OF POSSIBILITY TO HAVE WITCHES AS GIRLFRIENDS.This allows you to stay in your full power. Go through the processes of competition, resentment and grief. EHP’s will assist you in going through this door. Do not diminish your womanhood by spending time gossiping and complaining. Hold your cavitated personal culture-space, and have a being to being relationship without diminishing/shrinking your sorcery world.
5. TWO MOVIES TO WATCH AOUT HAVING META CONVERSATIONS WHILE SOCIALIZING:
Lord Of The Rings: Gandolf is giving us a map for meta conversations while socializing is happening.
Watch Secret Society this week about what type of conversations are possible. Do you want to be nice to each other or have intimate conversations person to person? https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0217788/
6. ASK OURSELF; WHAT DOORS CAN I OPEN THAT MIGHT BENEFIT OTHERS WHEN THE SPACE IS ORDINARY.
7. THREE TIMES A DAY CALL PEOPLE UP WHEN YOU SEE THEM ON LINE. Practice the old concept of calling people instead of zooming. Create deep nourishing conversations. For instance, "I want to know what is going on in your life."
8. INTERACT WITH YOUR PARTNER OR FRIEND EACH DAY AS IF YOU DO NOT KNOW THEM (Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #4). make it seem like the first time you have seen your partner or friend. Stay in your bodies and see what you are noticing. Must drop all mountains of conclusions, judgements, certainties we already have about that person. Could be a doorway to emotional healing processes about why you want to hold on to what was or what could be. Look at websites
9. LET YOUR PARTNER’S STORIES GO BY UNTIL YOU ARE IN A SPACE OF STORYLESSNESS.(Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #5). See how long you can stay in this space without freaking out. Let those stories go by. Even if you have heard the story many times, listen to it again as if you have not heard it before
10. CREATE NON LINEAR SURPRISES AND DELIGHTFUL INTERACTIONS, PREVIOUSLY INVISIBLE. (Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #6)Then bring it into the space (not involving money, gifts, or gremlin jokes) could be shopping together where the woman tries on different cloths as a new identity, or talking with different accents and view points, serving a foreign meal.
11. BE EARLY. MOVE FASTER THAN THE SPEED OF TIME. (Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships # 7) Do not chase the clock by fitting everything in. Arrive before you are intended to meet up so you can get grounded, and then enjoy the time you are waiting for your partner/friend to arrive. Do whatever it takes without rushing, When I am late and the other person is waiting, creates a victim culture.
12. PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACKEVERYDAY FOR A WHOLE YEAR FOR SURVIVING You can now let go of each of your survival tactics and stories. Extraordinary relating is not surviving, it is having presence and relating in the now.
13. REMOVE THE BLOCKS OF DOING THESE EXPERIMENTS BY ASKING FOR AN EMOTIONAL HEALING PROCESS.
1. THE FIRST SUNDAY OF EACH MONTH A TEAM OF POSSIBILITATORS WILL HOLD A ZOOM CALL TO ANSWER ALL QUESTIONS PEOPLE HAVE ABOUT POSSIBILITY MANAGEMENT. They will address How to start over, what is a bridge house, What is a possibility team, etc. This will start in December.
2. PROVIDE AN ABUNDANCE OF EXTRAORDINARY LOVE TO YOUR PARTNER, AS IF YOU HAVE AN INEXHAUSTIBLE SUPPLY. (Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #8) This requires that you get out of the way of your mind, call in your bright principles, which taps you into the energy of abundance. When you step into your bright principles, you allow your bright principles to wash away the past pain and low drama in your life.
3. SHIFT YOUR IDENTITY IN THE WORLD, AND BECOME A SPACEHOLDER FOR YOUR GROUP OF PEOPLE. This gives the space a purpose and leaves little room for your personal baggage and neuroticism. Build a team of people that you are accountable to and hold EHP’s for. You should not hold EHP’s for your partner.
4. BE GENEROUS WITH YOUR LOVE, AND WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED ON YOUR PATH. What is your game-plan? What are you going to do with your bright principles and evolution? Your evolution is not just for you, it is about what you offer to others. You have the ability to be generous and hold space, even in a liquid state, using the energy of your bright principles.The bright principles come through you for others to receive. Your bright principles are what you offer to others. Doing this allows you to serve your own purpose.
5. CHOOSE A BRIGHT PRINCIPLE THAT YOU HAVE RESONANCE WITH. Go to a cafe or a meeting and let this bright principle shine/flow through you. Say; I am letting Love (whatever bright principle you pick) source through me. This requires that you have 15-20% of your attention on sourcing the bright principle in the space.
6. TAKE CARE OF YOUR ENERGETIC BODY SO THAT YOU CAN FLOW ENERGY THROUGH YOUR PARTNER, rather than wanting them to flow energy to you. (Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #9) If you are waiting around for your partner to flow energy to you, there is no energy. IE: If you want him/her to hold your hand, you hold his/her hand. If you want them to put the kids to bed, ask him /her to do this. Refuse to manipulate or be manipulated.
7. KEEP YOUR CENTER WITH YOU IN THE MOMENT. You cannot control what will happen two seconds from now. Keep breathing and tell yourself I am going to stay in my center today, right here, right now. See if you can have a connection, without controlling it. You are the source of the spaces that you are in. You do not have to take on the space you enter into. Make sure you are grounded and bubbled before doing this.
8. BOOKS, MOVIES AND WEBSITES RECOMMENDED FOR THIS WEEK.
Teaching as a subversive activity by Weingarten and Postman
1. WOMEN: MAKE PROPOSALS AND NEGOTIATIONS TO OPEN DOORS FOR A MAN you are interested in relating with. Make sure they are not too badly damaged or involved in gremlin contamination. Create a context of relating with this man that feeds your Warrioress. How does this bridge happen? It’s not about changing a man, it’s about offering something different for a man who does not know how to reach Archearchy on his own.
2. INVITE YOUR PARTNER TO JOIN YOU IN THE STUDY GROUP MEETING.
3. CREATE A NAME FOR YOURSELF THAT DESCRIBES WHAT YOU OFFER TO OTHERS. IE: Matrix Builder, Weaver, Game-Space Builder, Space Holder…….
4. ATTUNE YOURSELF TO ECCO DOORWAYS. Look for big doors and small doors, and choose one to go through.
5. UN-PACKAGE STORIES YOU HAVE ABOUT YOURSELF. Write in your beep book every time you use a storyfor why you do something; when do you use the story? What is it’s purpose? Notice what other people are using storiesfor. Get out of the domain where stories have power. Stories create crystallization and are a way of self protection.
6. AVOID REASONS AND STORIES FOR JUSTIFYING YOUR BEHAVIOR, AND MAKE THEM POWERLESS. Do this for a week. You get stuck when using reasons and stories. Find ways to relate and interact that don’t require understanding yourself so that you can grow and be something new. Stories and reasons block you as a player in global transformation work.
7. SHOW UP IN YOUR WHOLE SELF. Take out the rotten Parts of yourself. Be joyful when someone who feeds the rotten Parts of you leaves. This leaves room for someone who feeds you to show up. When you are Adaptive and nice and play small you are not being Authentic. Triple your Asshole Factor and let those people who do not feed you, drop out of your life. Be in love with yourself and be Authentic so the wounds can heal.
8. FIND YOUR OWN TRIBE: When you work/live with those who have common Purposes, that’s when Love, Transformation, and Magic happens. Write in your Beep! Book the ways you are Being Adaptive to others in order to be seen and loved. Being Adaptive means you are giving away Your Center, and avoiding to Become Authentic. Notice how that changes when you find your own tribe!
9. LET WHAT IS LOVABLE IN YOU GO LOOSE IN THE WORLD. Don’t have a plan, or a strategy, just let it loose in any way that it wants to.
1. DISMANTLE YOUR IDENTITIES: Write down in your Beep! Book all the sentences in your head about your day to day unconscious Identities that are mixed with judgements. Yes, Identities! You have many: For example 'I’m a good housekeeper, a bad partner, not good with my hands, good with kids'.
These judgemental-driven Identities are stories and have a powerful influence on how you have shaped yourself and your world. This is a fake image help up by fake Identities. Out of them you create Fantasy Worlds of 'good' and 'bad' which are also fake because they are based on fakeness.
Once you write down lots of stories, start taking your Identities apart, dismantle your notion of 'good' and 'bad', allowing yourself more freedom to be what is Authentic in the moment.
Instead of 'I am good and bad' start saying 'I am a listener, I am a partner, I am a parent etc.' This way you are not stuck, and open to who you are in the moment with neutrality.
2. ASK ANNE-CHLOÉ AND CLINTON QUESTIONS ABOUT POSSIBILITY MANAGEMENT starting Sunday Dec. 4th, and continuing first Sunday of every month.
The Gameworld of Possibility Management opens Doorways to access Infinite Resources. And everybody living in a human body is designed to have access to Infinite Resources. This means, you are also designed to have access to infinite numbers of questions. Your powerful Quest-ions are Doorways for Transformation and serving the space when asked thoroughly. This is an opportunity to bring your Quest-ions about Possibility Management into the space of two dedicated Possibilitators and Gameworldbuilders.
3. DO SOMETHING YOU NORMALLY HAVE FEAR, SHAME, OR GUILT ABOUT.Frame it up so that it works without the Emotion of Fear, Shame or Guilt, and then do it. IT’s a framework that allows you to do the thing you are suppressing. The Emotions and 'Mixed Emotions' (Shame and Guilt) will melt away by taking Radical Responsibility in the moment. If you can manage Possibilities, then anything is possible.
4. WHEN DID YOU NOTICE YOU WERE FREE? Ask yourself and others this Quest-ion until you understand you have Radical Responsibility to create what is important to you in the moment...and this means you take Responsibility for the consequences.
You are free to be this Person Of Agency, having Authority and taking Responsibility for the consequences. You might use these considerations along the way:
The only one who could have put away your Authority and stop yourself from being free is yourself. If you experience anything like 'not having Authority' , who did you give your Authority to? When do you take that Authority back?
This is sourcing from your freedom! And with your Authority in your own bag, you ARE free to Choose anything, say anything, use your Real Voice, be anything, try anything, Create anything and live in the extasy of Creation out of Radical Responsibility.
1.TRY THIS PRACTICE WHEN CONFLICT ARISES WITH A LOVED ONE: Rather than argue your point, say; Please tell me more about that, then write down what they say and ignore your own internal voices. Tell them, I will be back in a specified amount of time, go for a walk, let go of the stories and notice what is in the moment. When you come back, see how the space has changed after consciousness is applied. Stay grounded and present in the space.
2. STEP INTO THE MINDSET OF “IT’S GREAT TO BE ME, JUST AS I AM!” Don’t get stuck with thoughtlessmind talk such as “my life is more difficult than yours”. By maintaining the attitude that “it’s great to be me just as I am”,the joy of life becomes contagious to all around you, including yourself. This experiment is from the book Rage For Revenge by David Gerald.
3. LIVE EACH SECOND IN AN EXTRAORDINARY WAY!Let go of all your burdensome ordinary thoughts, and live each second in an extraordinary way: ie “I am so excited about being alive, I am burden free, let’s do experiments together!”
4. ENJOY WHAT YOU ENJOY THOROUGHLY WITHOUT TRYING TO CONVINCE OTHERS TO ENJOY IT TOO. When you are ecstatic about what you are doing, others will want what you have. If you play in child ego state, all you get is rescuer in return. Do the gremlin transformation process and then an Emotional healing process to grow your child up.
5. TAKE CARE OF YOUR PHYSICAL BODY FOR WELLNESS AND RADIANT HEALTH. (Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships#10) Question how you treat your body. Do you pull hair out? Why? Have you chosen to not take care of your physical body because you might be found attractive and get abused, or have to deal with getting attention? Our physical bodies are a unique way of radiant health. Trying to fit the magazine model, or trying to be ugly to avoid attention are both extreme ways of treating yourself. Try something new and see if you can find radiance in a place where you can relax.
6. TAKE CARE OF YOUR INTELLECTUAL BODY BY GIVING IT GOOD FOOD.(Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #11) What ecstasy can you feed your mind from your studies? Have interesting conversations, study something new, feed yourself non-linear, high meme content food like films, books, articles, experiments, and studying new interests. See websites below. Do not depend on your partner exclusively for this kind of food.
7. TAKE CARE OF YOUR EMOTIONAL BODY. (Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships#12) Continuously distinguish between your feelings and your emotions. If you have a feeling for more than 3 minutes then it is an emotion that your gremlin is feeding off of. Use your emotions as a doorway for an emotional healing process to clean up the remaining residue of old emotions. Being a victim, blaming, getting revenge, being nice or numb are all gremlin food. Be good company for your partner by cleaning up your stuff so you can relate in an ecstatic way. Don’t force your partner to deal with your neurosis because you haven’t cleaned it up. Uncover the authentic you who is good company.
8. BECOME AN ASSHOLE BY TEACHING ASSHOLE TRAINING. An Asshole speaks what is important to them regardless of whether it is pleasing to others. Teach what you need to learn
1. ASK YOURSELF: WHAT AM I CREATING, AND OFFERING, IN MY RELATIONSHIP/S? What am I/are we collaboratively creating, and how am I/are we feeding the other? There does not need to be one moment in the day where you are not collaboratively creating. If you want to change the outcome, and you cannot change the circumstances, then change what is possible. Don’t wait around for the circumstances to change.
2. CLEAN UP MESSES;YOURS AND THOSE YOU ENCOUNTER.Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #13. Messes get in the way of perceiving the subtle joys of life. A little dog poop can stink up an entire room, as cigarette butts in a Japanese garden can ruin the space. There are messes everywhere. Scan for messes in a relaxed manner. Clean them up for yourself and others, because you can, no matter who made the mess. Not much attention is necessary to notice and clean up messes as you walk through spaces. You then leave a cloud of elegance behind you for others, rather than complain about the messes. Be careful to respect the idiosyncratic needs of your partners messy box.
3. START USING THE PHRASE THIS IS STUPID when organizations or restaurants are harming the environment (ie; using plastic or straws). This can be hugely powerful, and can change the amount of product one sells, especially when on-line comments/reviews are posted. Take your revolutionary acts forward. Hashtag, This is stupid….. to make a difference.
4. USE YOUR ATTENTION TO LOOK FOR AND CREATE SUBTLE ELEGANCE.Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #14. Use the driver of creating elegance to make your own elegance effervescent (reveal elegant details that amplify elegance). This means if you can reveal certain details in a space that others are not noticing, you bring elegance to the space. Elegance can be how you say good morning, how you open a door or how you smile at your partner. It’s intentional and attentive and can radiate out with a clean room or a nice piece of furniture. What you do with your empty time and space will determine the kind of elegance you are making. You can amplify certain details and revel in them. Stop, notice and appreciate the beauty of something simple.
5. WITHHOLD NOTHING, ADAPT TO NOTHING. Must do this before you can stand in your own elegance. Reap the consequences of adapting to nothing. Can you be an asshole without beating yourself up?
6. CHOOSE A WEEK AND MAKE NO COMMITMENTS; No promises, no agreements, nothing, Not even I will see you in 5 min. Notice how unconscious making a promise is. It is a survival strategy to say yes. Make your yes’s, conscious yes’s.
7. THREE TIMES A DAY SAY NO FOR NO REASON, JUST SAY NO!Look at asshole training on my strikingly. If you decide this is not for you this week, you can always change your mind. Practice being ok with being an asshole.
8. USE A BEEP BOOK AS AN INTERVENTION. This allows you to slow down, and understand what is happening better. When you write it down it has value and you can explore it more.
9. CREATE A THREE CELL TO COMPLETE OLD EMOTIONS ONCE PER WEEK (EHP’S). Take 7 min each to complete old emotions from everyone else except your parents. That may need a longer process.
MOVIES related to week 81:
The Glorias with Julianne Moore, and Alicia Vikander.
Shakespeare In Love, with Ralph Fiennes and Gywneth Paltrow
Jupiter Ascending from the Washowski with Mile Kunis and Channing Tatum
1. UN-STRESS YOURSELF.Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #15. Stressing yourself out is modern cultures strategy to keep yourself in a box to avoid intimacy. Ways to un-stress yourself: Get enough sleep, take naps, drink enough water, take a warm bath, eat well, avoid over stimulating your mind, exercise, stay healthy, become the most radiant person in the space,
2.RENEGOTIATE OVERWORK AND FATIGUE. Do not get a cold, a sickness, or have an accident. These are all stressful occurrences. Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and imagine who you would be in the world, what would your day be like if you didn’t have any stress. What would happen if all stress falls away and no energy is spent on stress? How many minutes, hours in the day can you allow this for yourself? Take a photo of you being radically unstressed.
3. NOTICE STRESS SENSATIONS OF BEING WRONG OR FAILING. This is your alarm and means there is a gap between you, and I am wrong, or I cannot handle this. What am I doing wrong? Follow it back to a rule that says I cannot …., I must not..., or I will be punished....write down the rules you have underneath the overwhelm. Every rule is causing stress for you. What will happen when you break this rule?
(I will go to hell, I will be banished forever, I will be out of control without this rule)
4. SPEND THREE MINUTES AS A STRESSED VICTIM AND THREE MINUTES AS AN UNSTRESSED KING OR SUPER HERO. Walk around for 3 minutes once a day for a week as a diseased, victimy, burdened, hunchback. Right after doing that become a King or Queen and speak from that powerful, radiant place for 3 minutes. Can you be a King or Queen when no one is watching? Move through space with a different relationship to life. Does life own you or do you own your life? It’s an opportunity to see who you are being when you think no one is looking. How can I deserve to occupy noble space with respect and dignity? If resistance comes up write about it in your beep book as a possibility for an EHP. Give yourself on-going 5 body exchanges to avoid stressful events.
5. NOTICE THE SENSATIONS OF YOUR ENERGETIC BODY ALL DAY LONG. Walk in a mall and pause in front of each kind of Shop. Sense the purpose and qualities of the space that might entice you, feed you and pull you into the shop. Write down these qualities. Go into one of the shops you would never go into, and see what the presiding deity of the space is. GO
In this special 'Christmas Eve Study Group' we used the genius intelligence of the Study Group Team to function as Santa Claus' legendary sack endlessly full of the perfect gift for each person... if you have the courage to reach in there and pull something out for yourself.
Many brave souls did! Together we created an evening of valuable exchanges in this magical healing and transformation space.
There are a number of Experiment proposals that emerged during our discussion even if they were not named as such.
Here are some of the experiments proposed:
1. WHAT YOU HAVE IS WHAT YOU WANT. I decide that what I am doing right now is what I actually want to do, rather than have to do. Use your magic wand to declare that you are changing your mind, and then figure out a way to do it so you enjoy it. Do something that you actually want to do, other than manipulate yourself into doing something you think you have to do.
2. EVERY MOMENT OF YOUR LIFE YOU HAVE A CHOICE TO SAY I AM SICK OR I AM NOT SICK, no matter what symptoms you have. Ask yourself which body has the idea you are not healthy. Sometimes that idea is in your mind even when you notice physical symptoms. You can tell your mind that you are not sick. This is a teaching about perceiving a nothingness in the linearity of time. You have a choice in every moment to say I am sick or I am not sick regardless of your symptoms. A scientific study found that some people who were biopsied and found to have severe alzheimer’s, did not have any symptoms.
3. BE AWARE WHERE YOU PUT YOUR ATTENTION. When I put my attention on Love I can see how it unfolds, how to find the treasures of where I am Love and how I find it. I can see how I connect with another person, even when the relationship has changed. Put your attention on the Love that still exists, rather than on the pain of being Love-sick. When you keep your attention on Love, you can see what is Lovable in you and others. This changes your perspective. Writing helps release pain, and can transform it into Joy.
4. LISTEN TO YOUR FEAR AS A RESOURCE. When you have fear, get in touch with it and ask: Fear, what do you have for me? Listen to what your fear is about, and what it is saying to you. Use it’s energy to move forward.
5. WHEN YOU HAVE FEAR THAT SOMEONE IS JUDGING YOU, (ie when you express anger out loud), remember, their judgement is because they are caring about you. THANK THEM FOR CARING ABOUT YOU.
6. PRACTICE LETTING LOVE INTO YOUR BODY: Click your clicker, hold your hands out in front of you where you stopped love from getting in. Go to a time when you could not let love in. Put your hands in the place where you stopped love from coming in. Use your body sensations and not your mind. Answer this question: why do I stop Love there? I have to stop it there because…...(one possibility is; it makes me vulnerable and I am fine being alone). This may not be who you are now. Fully feel the old emotions, preferably in an Emotional Healing Process. When you are ready notice where the wall is now.
7. PRACTICE BEING COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN. Speak your truth, act your truth, live your truth, whatever that may be, so that truth will fill humanity. There will be a price to pay when you speak your truth, such as rejection, loneliness, and a death of who you were before. Death is the price to pay in order to fully live and do the thing you were born to do in life.
8. ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION: What is the real thing that your fear is stopping you from going for, and if you do it, will give you back more than you put in. Put your hand where this thing is sitting in your body, and pay attention to sensations, feelings, treasures that come out of this place. Write them down and consider doing an emotional healing process in order to use your fears to move forward towards your authentic offerings.
20:46:11 From Markus Bork : Scaling Regenerative Culture Erik Lawyer Maciek Antkowiak Clinton Callahan Anne-Chloe Destremau 2022 https://youtu.be/5wZc1ISxzK0
1. WHAT FEELINGS DID YOU NOT LET GO OF IN 2022? Get into groups of two, seven minutes for each person. Use conscious sadness to connect with your partner, and tell them not to rescue you when you talk about your sadness. Find the sadness in you that is not victimy, and lead with this part of your story. Do this once a day for a week. What is your low level sadness and how can you be intimate with your partner?
2. PRACTICE RAPID LEARNING: Find a Deli in the Bronx, order a pastrami sandwich, a dill pickle and an egg cream. If you are from New York, try going to a small village in Mexico or another 3rd world country. Find a street stand where you see a pig head, and they are selling pig head tacos. Order and appreciate what the locals eat.
3. FEED YOUR SOUL. (Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #24)Respect you and your partners different soul food needs. Make it into an intimacy experience by doing what your partner wants, even if it is outside your box.
4. LIVE IN INTEGRITY. (Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #25) Do what you say you are going to do, be accountable. This builds connection. It is a measurable promise. The promise goes into the being and the body feels it when the promise is not honored.
5. FIND 24 UNFULFILLED PROMISES PEOPLE MADE TO YOU. Tell each person you no longer expect them to keep their promises. Remember when you said….(ie; you would help me clean out my closet?) I want you to know I am letting go of that promise forever. With enough incomplete promises, resentment and anger happen. You can ask people which promises did I make and not complete, and then you can say I no longer agree to fulfill this promise, or I changed my mind and its not what I want anymore.
6. PRACTICE HOLDING SPACE FOR YOURSELF, and have your partner hold their own space.
7. PRACTICE SELF OBSERVATION WHEN YOU MAKE A PROMISE. Notice which part in me is talking, and what is the responsibility I am agreeing to. Sometimes do it regardless, even if you did not expect the price to be so high. This builds matrix. Do you know which part of you made the commitment?
8. RUB HER FEET.(Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #26) To be done anywhere and for no reason. This is experiential reality and creates intimacy.
9.TRY AGAIN.(Experiments For Creating Extraordinary Human Relationships #27) When you try something and it did not work out very well, try again. Take a breath, shift, GO and try again using what did not work the first time. Do-overs are allowed in the moment or months later. Try your invitation, proposal again. How many times did Edison fail before he was successful???? LOTS!
10. ABOVE ALL NEVER IGNORE YOUR IGNORANCE. Do not forget that you are truly an expert at creating ordinary relationship. Even if you know how to create extraordinary relationship, there are always shadows behind that slip out on occasion. The more you slip into unconscious competence, the hungrier your Gremlin gets. The Gremlin is always there, especially when it gets hungry.
11. YOU WILL NEED TO PRACTICE EXTRAORDINARY RELATIONSHIP SKILLS UNTIL YOUR LAST BREATH to maintain conscious vigilance.
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1. BECOME AWARE OF WHICH I IS TALKING: Your gremlin, child, parent, adult or mixed ego states.
2. MAKE NO ASSUMPTIONS:Instead, notice what is important, what needs to be talked about. Notice when you are making an assumption which you think is true. If the assumption is not talked about, it gets changed into an expectation. When the expectation is not fulfilled resentment takes over. Keep saying what you want and what you don’t want. Bring up assumptions and check them out to keep expectations and resentments from taking hold.
3. DISMANTLE YOUR RESENTMENTS: apologize to each person, and take radical responsibility for your assumption that turned into an expectation and then into a resentment.
4. PRACTICE NEGOTIATING YOUR WANTS.Make proposals back and forth by saying “yes and” until you both come to a mutual agreement.
5. WHAT EXPERIMENTS ARE YOU DOING RIGHT NOW? Develop a tool box of experiments to access unreasonable and non linear offers you can make. (this can include using humor).
I'VE NEVER BEEN MORE BENEFICIALLY INFLUENCED BY A BOOK THAN BY THIS ONE
5.0 out of 5 stars
Reviewed in Canada on July 21, 2020
After encountering Clinton and Possibility Management online, and experiencing the effect of the distinctions offered, I bought this book as well as buying Directing the Power of Conscious Feelings. I have bought so many books in my life to help me heal, grow, and live a more extraordinary life…and sure, they have helped me. But this book…this book…is by far and away NEXT LEVEL. My world is changing, I am changing…in ways I have for my whole life hoped and dreamed might be possible. If I could dream it, surely that meant I could BE IT?! Yes, it is so, and this book, and the Possibility Management community of edge workers are bringing me the possibilities.
- Nicole Hartley Bradford
NOT JUST FOR PARTNER RELATIONSHIPS
5.0 out of 5 stars
Reviewed in the United States on January 14, 2008
Although the subtitle suggests that this book is for people who want to build a more satisfying relationship with a partner (and it is that), the book actually provides fundamentally new ways for creating and being in any relationship. Typically we entrap ourselves in a well-defended box made of unchallenged ideas, opinions, and values imposed upon us by our culture and peers. Relationships between boxes are what the author refers to as "ordinary human relationship," and it's the only kind of relationship most of us ever know. While the book alerts the reader to the existence of two higher levels of relationship (extraordinary and Archetypal) and guides him or her to those higher levels, a browser can gain substantive value by simply opening the book and reading a few pages at random. It's hard to avoid a new idea, an inspirational anecdote, or a challenging exercise that crawls its way into your psyche. But be forewarned. This is a dangerous book. On the back cover there's a disclaimer in a highlighted box that says, "Warning: You will not work with this book--this book works with you. This book is filled with memetic viruses--ideas that swarm through every level of your thinking, replacing any ideas they find that are formulated with less clarity. Your mind will not digest this book. This book digests your mind. If you do not want your present ideas about relationship seriously reordered, do not read this book." Take it seriously.
- N. Lewis
CHOOSE TO LOVE, CHOOSE TO GROW, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
A powerful Instrument for learning love by doing exactly what its reviewers claimed. You won't digest this book, it will digest you. Reading it is like importing a computer virus that replaces everything in your hard drive regarding love that was wishy-washy and full of victimhood and installs clarity and personal responsibility. The light is so bright it may hurt your eyes. Clinton Callahan establishes a new "possibility" language that builds on and synthesizes previous psychological models and creates powerful new personal growth tools for self and relationship. This book is the closest thing to a manual of Awareness and Awakening that I have ever encountered. There is no where to hide from yourself after you've read this book. If you read it, you will share it with everyone who is important to you and use the concepts and experiments revealed every day for the rest of your blessed life.
I have been happily married for 33 years. Many of my friends and acquaintances have not. They are divorced, some several times. They are unhappy and unsatisfied in their current relationships. They have resigned themselves to an "OK" relationship, but the passion and energy for joining together with their partner in a deeper and vibrant life died long ago. When I heard someone talk about Radiant Joy Brilliant Love, I thought that the book was for them, the unhappy people, not for me. I already had a good relationship. My partnership was full of life. But, this book is explosive! It has given me so many new ideas for looking at my life and my relationship in vital ways that I never imagined before. I am so grateful for the serious time I've devoted to this challenging but rewarding book. I highly recommend it to anyone in a partnered relationship, even--perhaps especially--if they think their current relationship is as good as it can get.
This book will take you on an amazing journey...teaching you to how live in the present, disengage from your inner gremlin and be capable of the highest love. It touches on deep issues between men & women...how to be fully responsible for your life. There is no 'new age' advice - its all firm, practical, down to earth stuff. Nothing wrong with new age...but Clinton comes from the practical side. I loved the book and I loved his writing style. Buy it, buy it and get your friends to buy it too.